Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“… You are not meant to look like other people, thank God. There is something very amazing and special about you. You are so present in some way, so vulnerably true to who you are…”

“…When people reveal where they’re really at, where they think something negative is going to happen, what actually happens is it makes them accessible to other people — for them to love you…”

“… You don’t have to be in pain in order to be vulnerable. Vulnerability really has to do with love. And actually the bottommost truth about the painful areas we’ve been talking about has to do with love…”

“…You have used your solidity, your strength, your ‘can’t knock you over’ to hold in place your defense system. But that’s not serving you. It’s not allowing you to evolve further…”

“…The reason that you get taken advantage of is because you’re not consciously present in the situations in which trust is an issue. If you were present it would be obvious to you what you could trust and what you could not trust…”

“…There is a perceived conflict that it’s not possible to be together with others without being untrue to yourself, having to compromise who you are, what’s really important to you, basically giving up your self…”

“You’ve gone along with men acting like this before, because you’ve had such a thick defense system. But the defense system is getting shaken up, and is no longer serving you, and therefore you are more present emotionally and vulnerably in a way you haven’t been before…”

“What it keeps turning out that this group is about, is uncovering the masks and defense systems, in order to get to the real self. And the real self is gold, totally gold.”

“That’s what generally happens when I’m revealing the ground a person is standing on, which is the way they form what reality is.”

“That’s what generally happens when I’m revealing the ground a person is standing on, which is the way they form what reality is. I’m causing a reframe right at that point, which feels like I’ve pulled the ground out from under you reality.”