Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

as your desire to evolve as a soul gets stronger and stronger, the defense system gets more and more in the way…

It’s just a huge burden. And if the man doesn’t do those things a man is supposed to do, he’s not considered a man, and he doesn’t feel good about himself.

Basically, defense systems are a manipulation. People are manipulating each other practically all of the time, often in very subtle, unconscious ways.

“There’s a whole area of communication that you misinterpret in a way that goes against yourself. You’re interpreting things against yourself so rapidly, that it’s hard to catch it in the moment…”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing. If you are just in the experience of something, then it’s an ever changing thing, and it’s not a place in which you can be right. It’s where you are in the experience, rather than mastering the experience. The kind of false mastery I’m talking about is the human substitute for the Divine, the province of the alternate self.”