Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

…there is something much more stable and true that is underlying all of experience that has been camouflaged by the unevolved avoidance of truth the world has been based on. And actually there is quite a lot that has been built in the world that is based on the truth of the real world. And that will begin to come much more to the fore, as the old dysfunctional structures fall away.

Regardless of the external circumstances, being a victim has to do with attitude and interpretation.

Most children start out viewing their parents basically as God, because they are physically and emotionally dependent on their parents for their well-being and survival. But when children run into a conflict where something traumatic happens that shakes their perception of reality about themselves in relation to their parents, they then generally contract into making a generalized limiting decision* about those they are dependent on.

Following enlightened self-interest* is leading you down a path that we couldn’t have preconceive of. This shows how irrelevant our preconceptions are about how things are supposed to end up looking. The challenge is being willing to stand in the confusion and discomfort of the unknown until things become clear, rather than jumping into an immediate solution so you can stop dealing with it.

The issue here is who or what is defining your experience of reality. Is it being defined from outside yourself or from inside yourself? In the old paradigm it was your boss, and the structure of the company, that was defining what your value was, according to how well you fit into what serves the interests of the company and/or the people who control it. … But this definition of value is limited by the particular perspectives of the people who control it. It is therefore defined by a human construct, which is not necessarily aligned with what is inherently true. Human constructs can’t define your actual value.

For any relationship to work, each person must be coming from what truly matters to them, or there is no solid foundation for it. Ultimately the only relationship we are in is between ourselves and a larger or Universal Truth.

When you get to the bottom of what is true between people, it always is love. That is what is underneath the separation, the fear, the anger, and the pain. But most people are so daunted by the dragon at the gateway to coming together with the other, they never find that out.

The question is what you are committed to. From a shallow kind of perspective, people can be committed to what makes them feel good in the moment. And so when things get difficult they just leave. On the other side of the pendulum …

What’s more important than taking certain actions, or changing your behavior in relation to her, is changing your insides.

The truth is, the bad stuff is getting exposed and revealed so it can be healed. We are evolving! Yes there is hope.