Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

When a person makes a limiting decision* that they can’t trust their own perception of reality, it makes them overly dependent on how other people respond to them and define reality. It often, also, makes them overly dependent on people they consider authority figures…

For any relationship to work, each person must be coming from what truly matters to them, or there is no solid foundation for it. Ultimately the only relationship we are in is between ourselves and a larger or Universal Truth.

“Many people feel that if they let out their real self, they would be too much for other people…”

“…the whole idea in the group is to let the real stuff come up and then explore it deeper and deeper until we get to the truth underneath it…”

“…You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you…”

“…The person outside there will never accommodate the reality you want them to have because you’re picking this exact person that wouldn’t do that. And then you try to change them…”

“Taking the action is not the most important thing. The important thing is to straighten out whatever is causing the conflict about the action…”

“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now…”

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“… You are not meant to look like other people, thank God. There is something very amazing and special about you. You are so present in some way, so vulnerably true to who you are…”