Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

Getting involved sexually is not just a physical experience. It’s a part of something that means more, and so the issue is whether the meaning more is a part of a fantasy or it’s connected to the real relationship.

Following enlightened self-interest* is leading you down a path that we couldn’t have preconceive of. This shows how irrelevant our preconceptions are about how things are supposed to end up looking. The challenge is being willing to stand in the confusion and discomfort of the unknown until things become clear, rather than jumping into an immediate solution so you can stop dealing with it.

People often go along with what’s happening around them as if that’s just the way things are, not realizing that they are letting themselves be controlled by other people’s energy. That’s very, very different than going with the flow of life.

The pattern for you could, for instance, be that you are available when the woman is not, and you are not available when they are.

From the standpoint that life is meant to work, if Linda is attracting something that isn’t working for her, by definition there has to be a limiting decision* holding this pattern in place.

“…the pattern probably has to do with men who are not available, which is then the kind of men you attract to yourself. And then you try to change that person into someone who will be there…”

“In relationships, people often try to compromise themselves or change the other person in order to make things work between them. And when that doesn’t work and they get fed up enough, they just cut the relationship off…”

Q: Is death a choice by the personality? Q: What good is the intellect to the matters of the heart? Q: Is all “perfect” in the universe? if so, what can be said of free will of mankind?