Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“What it keeps turning out that this group is about, is uncovering the masks and defense systems, in order to get to the real self. And the real self is gold, totally gold.”

“It’s not that there isn’t any meaning. It’s that the meaning we generally give things has nothing to do with what they actually are. The way I interpret what the Course is talking about is basically …”

“That’s what generally happens when I’m revealing the ground a person is standing on, which is the way they form what reality is. I’m causing a reframe right at that point, which feels like I’ve pulled the ground out from under you reality.”

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/16/09 (Names of participants are changed to protect their privacy.) (Randy said that his wife is no longer accusing him of being passive-aggressive and they haven’t been fighting this past week. This is the first time since he has been in [...]

“I don’t know lots of things. I stand in the question. That’s how I end up knowing things. I walk into the situation, and I know nothing. And so I’m looking, I’m waiting, I’m listening. And then I know something. It just sort of pours in.”

“…you have to clear whatever causes you to use your sensitivity and vulnerability against yourself. So you can glory in it, be out there with it in joy and happiness and power. So you can use it to create what you really want in your life, in the fullness of who you are.”

“Understanding that ‘life is meant to work’ seems to be the big evolutionary challenge for human beings, because every limiting decision people make boils down to some form of ‘life is not meant to work.’”

“And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority.”

“(Randy was saying that he feels fed up with the relationship. He doesn’t want to live like this any more, and is ready to leave.) The issue here is about dialogue. When people finally come to the point where they can no longer deny how they really feel, they often just decide to leave, which is not giving anything a chance to actually work.”

“When there’s a power-struggle, each person in the struggle is trying to control what the other person perceives of as reality, based on a construct that person has formed, to protect their emotional defense system.”