Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

What people often associate with safety, stability and comfort is actually retreating from engaging in life, into a world they believe they can control.

The question is what you are committed to. From a shallow kind of perspective, people can be committed to what makes them feel good in the moment. And so when things get difficult they just leave. On the other side of the pendulum …

People often go along with what’s happening around them as if that’s just the way things are, not realizing that they are letting themselves be controlled by other people’s energy. That’s very, very different than going with the flow of life.

As we approach the New Year we can see the transition we have been going through in these tumultuous times. One way to describe it is we are shifting from striving to be in control, to engaging instead.

It’s not about what the person wants that’s the issue, but what is motivating him wanting it. If it’s substituting for some emotional need that he doesn’t have access to receiving, because he doesn’t have the channels open, it won’t work and will conflict with you.

The reason you see only those two choices is because the ground you are standing on is limited and structured by limiting decisions that filter in only the information that supports the limiting decisions, and not anything that doesn’t.

…if you take a ridged stand on a judgment about what this means about his character, you have shut the door to a way forward.

The purpose of the evolutionary process is to move increasingly more toward our enlightened self-interest, that which truly benefits us.

The people who do these kinds of hateful acts, are like lightening-rods. They serve as an outlet for the kinds of emotions that people don’t generally find acceptable in themselves.

Truth is a fundamental element in real experience. It connects our common reality, and is the foundation of it. It is what gives us real stability.