Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you…”

“…The person outside there will never accommodate the reality you want them to have because you’re picking this exact person that wouldn’t do that. And then you try to change them…”

“Taking the action is not the most important thing. The important thing is to straighten out whatever is causing the conflict about the action…”

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“… You are not meant to look like other people, thank God. There is something very amazing and special about you. You are so present in some way, so vulnerably true to who you are…”

“…Each of you are struggling to be in control of defining reality, as if you need the other person to agree with your reality, and they need you to agree with theirs…”

“…When people reveal where they’re really at, where they think something negative is going to happen, what actually happens is it makes them accessible to other people — for them to love you…”

“…the child expresses the way they see things; and can in one second shatter through the defense system the parent has built…”

“… At some point you decided, ‘I’m going to do what I want to do,’ and you put up a wall so you wouldn’t feel manipulated by what the other person wants. So basically what you’re doing is blocking communication…”

From Janine’s NLP TimeLine Therapy Session with Jane 6-29-09

The limiting decision Janine cleared using the TimeLine process: “Life is limitless pain.”

The first event in which she made this decision: Many generations ago. She is 14 years old, and she left her body and went insane because there was so much suffering. Her parents were dead [...]