Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…We’re talking about really being true to yourself, which means you honor your real emotions, which is the only way a relationship could possibly work in the first place. …”

“…the whole idea in the group is to let the real stuff come up and then explore it deeper and deeper until we get to the truth underneath it…”

“A leader is a person who is accessing reality from their own experience and expressing that. He or she has a fix on reality in a way that others don’t. They have a very strong knowing that something is very important and must be said and is really true. And the truth of it causes people to recognize it. When someone speaks truth you know it, whether or not you’re willing to listen to it, or have a trigger against it. But truth rings true. It has a big effect. And the fact that leaders are connected to truth, makes them leaders.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing. If you are just in the experience of something, then it’s an ever changing thing, and it’s not a place in which you can be right. It’s where you are in the experience, rather than mastering the experience. The kind of false mastery I’m talking about is the human substitute for the Divine, the province of the alternate self.”

“Where I’m trying to move you to is something that is a very high level of functioning. You could say it’s the main shift that humanity is moving toward. It’s moving from having your sense of reality defined by something outside of you, by a perceived authority as if it defines what is true — versus direct experience, directly coming from an internal plumb line, a place of being present and available in the present moment, and knowing what is true, which comes from, you could say, an open channel.”