Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“Whatever is really important to you, whatever really matters to you — even if you can only get a hold of something that is based on a limiting decision and therefore somewhat off kilter — you have to start with where you are at, and follow it down to getting deeper and truer, and deeper and truer, to get some solid ground. Nothing will ever be right between the two of you if you are not on solid ground, no matter how she reacts to it. You need to start getting to a base of reality, or there’s just no hope.”

“With you it’s more of a male-female dynamic. You easily gain mastery in the male arena. You’re good at that. What you are not good at doing is in the female arena, which is being present, being seen, being vulnerable, being gotten to, being related to, being touched, inter-meshing with other people, mixing it up. You’ve been living in a false world with a false self, and having false things that give you false pleasure. In other words, the real things that really matter to you are what you feel deeply sad about, because you don’t think you can possibly have them because of limiting decisions you have made.”

“In order to be in the present moment, self-interest is a crucial element. If you’re not connected to what matters to you, personally, and if you’re not following that path of what really matters to you in every moment… It’s crucially important. That’s how you define reality.”