Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you…”

“…And the reason you’re together with those particular kinds of people, in the first place, has to do with limiting decisions. Basically you’re building yourself an impossible scenario in relation to other people….”

“…What I’m trying to help you do is get to a place where you are moving in the direction of letting the Divine into the picture. As close as you can get to truth — to moving in the direction of, or trying to get to truth — it allows something larger to start coming into the picture…”

“The point here is to just allow yourself to be inappropriate. It’s not the end of the world. We need to get to the truth before we can untangle it to get to the healed place.”

“I don’t know lots of things. I stand in the question. That’s how I end up knowing things. I walk into the situation, and I know nothing. And so I’m looking, I’m waiting, I’m listening. And then I know something. It just sort of pours in.”

“If I puncture someone’s defense system, then the real material starts coming out. That’s what happened last time with Jocelyn. It happened previously with Janet. And it’s happening with Aaron. The person relates, hiding behind by his defense system, thinking that he is protected from the painful, limiting decision against himself underneath it.”

“What often comes up in this group is the issue ‘Who is defining reality for you?’. People, in general, often let other people define reality for them. And that’s the issue that you seem to be referring to. But I’m taking about something different. I’m talking about letting input from other people give you information, not in order for them to define reality for you, but for you to learn more about yourself from your own perspective.”

“Clearing limiting decisions basically means that you no longer have restricted possibilities or impossibility, and so your options are much broader.”

“And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority.”

“In the course of some interaction in the group, something comes up, something is activated. There’s energy happening, there’s possibilities. And we’re opening up to find out what truth is. We don’t know the answer yet, and we’re standing in the question. There is then a possibility of things configuring, or reconfiguring so we can find out something we didn’t know before. It’s an exploring kind of thing. But generally what happens is you jump in and say, “It’s this, this and this,” and fill in the space before truth can come into the picture.”