Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…so much divorce right now, because people have been trying to conform to some external ideal of what marriage is supposed to be…”

“It’s an amazing miracle to watch what happens after you clear a limiting decision that has been distorting an area of your life. …”

“…the rules and constructs that humanity develops are an evolving process, moving toward the way things really work, because evolution moves toward truth. …”

“…We’re talking about really being true to yourself, which means you honor your real emotions, which is the only way a relationship could possibly work in the first place. …”

“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now…”

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“The issue here is whether trying to manipulate truth works better than truth. Following truth takes radical faith in life, in truth, in things working to the best and highest interest for everyone concerned…”

“Change often doesn’t happen until you’re forced to because the old structure no longer works. This is because change often feels like you are jumping off a cliff. Because of the limiting decision, you don’t do what would be realistic to do, because the limiting decision causes you to believe there is no resource or possibility there. Therefore, thinking of going in that direction seems very foolish. And very possibly if you went in that direction anyway, since you didn’t see the opportunity, it wouldn’t work because of the way the limiting decision has structured your experience of reality.”