Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

For any relationship to work, each person must be coming from what truly matters to them, or there is no solid foundation for it. Ultimately the only relationship we are in is between ourselves and a larger or Universal Truth.

What’s more important than taking certain actions, or changing your behavior in relation to her, is changing your insides.

“…Are you supporting the truth of who the person really is, or are you supporting their limiting decisions, i.e. the mistaken idea of there being something inherently wrong with them and/or with the nature of life?…”

“The universe is filled with resources, but it might not be in the form that you expect it from. It may not be from the person you expect it to come from.”

“There’s a plus and minus for a man feeling he has to be the sole provider. The plus (which is not in reality) is carrying this heavy load is something he can get mastery of, something he can feel in control of, so it makes him feel powerful.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing.”

“Besides specific, individual limiting decisions, there are limiting decisions that permeate entire cultures, and those that are global, representing where humanity has evolved at that particular point-in-time. Our collective limiting decisions affect the whole social concept of how to earn a living, how to keep social order, how to raise children, etc. These ways of being in life are substitutes for Divine Truth, separating humanity from what really matters to us.”