Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

Getting involved sexually is not just a physical experience. It’s a part of something that means more, and so the issue is whether the meaning more is a part of a fantasy or it’s connected to the real relationship.

Approaching this by trying to get him to focus more time on you is an attempt to control what can’t be controlled in reality, and it is a backwards approach to the problem.

…it’s never an attachment to the person himself that is what you’re really wanting. It’s the heart of intimacy, the heart of love.

“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now…”