Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

The question is what you are committed to. From a shallow kind of perspective, people can be committed to what makes them feel good in the moment. And so when things get difficult they just leave. On the other side of the pendulum …

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/16/09 (Names of participants are changed to protect their privacy.) (To Jocelyn) “The defense system that keeps your investment in being a victim in place, affects everything you do, because your unconscious mind is in charge and is invested in proving [...]

“This huge burden is what you are focusing on, and is what the group is having to carry with you, as we listen to you. And this is the way you have structured your world. But this is not what reality is about.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing.”

“A leader is a person who is accessing reality from their own experience and expressing that. He or she has a fix on reality in a way that others don’t. They have a very strong knowing that something is very important and must be said and is really true. And the truth of it causes people to recognize it. When someone speaks truth you know it, whether or not you’re willing to listen to it, or have a trigger against it. But truth rings true. It has a big effect. And the fact that leaders are connected to truth, makes them leaders.”

“In the course of some interaction in the group, something comes up, something is activated. There’s energy happening, there’s possibilities. And we’re opening up to find out what truth is. We don’t know the answer yet, and we’re standing in the question. There is then a possibility of things configuring, or reconfiguring so we can find out something we didn’t know before. It’s an exploring kind of thing. But generally what happens is you jump in and say, “It’s this, this and this,” and fill in the space before truth can come into the picture.”

“The only reason a person isn’t getting what they need is if they have a limiting decision blocking the channel for receiving what it is they need. That means, by definition, that no one can give it to them, because they have the channel closed. If they didn’t have the channel closed, they wouldn’t be needy. So the issue is not to keep pouring things at them, but to facilitate the opening of the channel, if they are interested in opening up the channel. If they’re not, then that’s what they’re creating.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing. If you are just in the experience of something, then it’s an ever changing thing, and it’s not a place in which you can be right. It’s where you are in the experience, rather than mastering the experience. The kind of false mastery I’m talking about is the human substitute for the Divine, the province of the alternate self.”

“What we’re creating in this group, is pushing you through your defense systems. So we’re pushing Aaron out of his defense system, where he can experience the truth when he is not defended. That’s very transformational. What is happening now (for Aaron), is that you feel that the only way you are acceptable is if you are perfect. Well this group is representing to you a completely different reality, that this being ‘perfect’ is what is unacceptable, because it is not real. And that when you reveal where you really are, that’s what draws people close to you. So the group represents a different reality, and as we push people out of the defense structures, that can shift your experience of reality. That’s the point.”

(Aaron is saying that his life is a life of service to others, and that he feels it’s just outside of his reach right now.) “I think there’s a disconnect in you about what real service is. The way it seems you’re approaching it can’t really be of service, because you’re still avoiding who you are, and masking the vulnerability underneath. You have to be coming from where and who you are in order to give anyone anything. If when you’re helping other people, you’re not being vulnerable yourself, then you are hiding behind the act of helping them.”