Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

The issue here is who or what is defining your experience of reality. Is it being defined from outside yourself or from inside yourself? In the old paradigm it was your boss, and the structure of the company, that was defining what your value was, according to how well you fit into what serves the interests of the company and/or the people who control it. … But this definition of value is limited by the particular perspectives of the people who control it. It is therefore defined by a human construct, which is not necessarily aligned with what is inherently true. Human constructs can’t define your actual value.

as your desire to evolve as a soul gets stronger and stronger, the defense system gets more and more in the way…

If you’re feeling something along the lines of life can’t work, or it’s not working, or it’s not going to work, then you know it’s got to be out of reality…

It’s just a huge burden. And if the man doesn’t do those things a man is supposed to do, he’s not considered a man, and he doesn’t feel good about himself.

The group is a different kind of social situation, in which instead of people going along with your defense systems or skirting around them, they are putting in the picture their own experience…

We think that it’s our manipulations and our fudgings and our organizing things this way and that way, from our limited perspective, that is somehow making life work.

there’s an energetic goal of feeling a certain way, and then that becomes symbolic for you getting something. But it is not the real thing.

…holding in place a whole frame-of-reference that you’re sure is true and not allowing a space to actually find out what is true.

You’re wanting to defend yourself because you’re feeling powerless. The only reason someone comes out so strongly is because they’re feeling powerless.

…the defense system is holding in place an impossibility. It is hiding the gold that is the person. It’s keeping people away from loving you.