Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

You’re wanting to defend yourself because you’re feeling powerless. The only reason someone comes out so strongly is because they’re feeling powerless.

…the defense system is holding in place an impossibility. It is hiding the gold that is the person. It’s keeping people away from loving you.

“…It’s not possible for anyone to be powerless. It is just a question of how you are using your power. You are using it, with great force, to prove that you are being victimized by other people…”

“Many people feel that if they let out their real self, they would be too much for other people…”

“…the whole idea in the group is to let the real stuff come up and then explore it deeper and deeper until we get to the truth underneath it…”

“…You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you…”

“…The person outside there will never accommodate the reality you want them to have because you’re picking this exact person that wouldn’t do that. And then you try to change them…”

“Taking the action is not the most important thing. The important thing is to straighten out whatever is causing the conflict about the action…”

“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now…”

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”