Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…There is a perceived conflict that it’s not possible to be together with others without being untrue to yourself, having to compromise who you are, what’s really important to you, basically giving up your self…”

“…Some people can be untrue to themselves more easily than you can. For people like you, the sense of who they are is so strong, and it is so unique, that it’s just too incongruent to do that…”

“…The reason I can dig underneath the surface of what appears to be negative material that’s showing up on the surface, is because I know that when you get underneath it, it’s always positive…”

“…And the reason you’re together with those particular kinds of people, in the first place, has to do with limiting decisions. Basically you’re building yourself an impossible scenario in relation to other people….”

“…Things would work out completely differently if you approach every situation, including all of the ones you just rattled through, from the stand point of, ‘Life is meant to work. How is this meant to work?’…”

“…So the issue is really understanding that there is a bottommost positive truth. When you explore things underneath the defense systems, that’s what you find. Most people do not believe that. That’s the problem…”

“…When the illusion of reality that most people live in, that they think is what is really supporting them, when they go past it, it seems to be a really big transition. It is about shifting survival systems.”

“This is a very significant period of time in human history. The fact that old structures have been falling apart is causing people to reframe where their source of safety and well-being is…”

“You’ve gone along with men acting like this before, because you’ve had such a thick defense system. But the defense system is getting shaken up, and is no longer serving you, and therefore you are more present emotionally and vulnerably in a way you haven’t been before…”

“Once we penetrate past the defensive response — which happens in the group when other people become aware of your defense system — then what comes up is your limiting decision, which is a negative and mistaken decision against yourself and the nature of life…”