Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…When the illusion of reality that most people live in, that they think is what is really supporting them, when they go past it, it seems to be a really big transition. It is about shifting survival systems.”

“To you the world of live material or emotions is dangerous. You don’t trust it, although you’re learning to trust it more, as you’re experiencing what happens when we really get down to the real live material.”

“That’s what generally happens when I’m revealing the ground a person is standing on, which is the way they form what reality is. I’m causing a reframe right at that point, which feels like I’ve pulled the ground out from under you reality.”

“And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority.”

“There’s a plus and minus for a man feeling he has to be the sole provider. The plus (which is not in reality) is carrying this heavy load is something he can get mastery of, something he can feel in control of, so it makes him feel powerful.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing. If you are just in the experience of something, then it’s an ever changing thing, and it’s not a place in which you can be right. It’s where you are in the experience, rather than mastering the experience. The kind of false mastery I’m talking about is the human substitute for the Divine, the province of the alternate self.”

“With you it’s more of a male-female dynamic. You easily gain mastery in the male arena. You’re good at that. What you are not good at doing is in the female arena, which is being present, being seen, being vulnerable, being gotten to, being related to, being touched, inter-meshing with other people, mixing it up. You’ve been living in a false world with a false self, and having false things that give you false pleasure. In other words, the real things that really matter to you are what you feel deeply sad about, because you don’t think you can possibly have them because of limiting decisions you have made.”