Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“Clearing limiting decisions basically means that you no longer have restricted possibilities or impossibility, and so your options are much broader.”

“This huge burden is what you are focusing on, and is what the group is having to carry with you, as we listen to you. And this is the way you have structured your world. But this is not what reality is about.”

“And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority.”

“(Randy was saying that he feels fed up with the relationship. He doesn’t want to live like this any more, and is ready to leave.) The issue here is about dialogue. When people finally come to the point where they can no longer deny how they really feel, they often just decide to leave, which is not giving anything a chance to actually work.”

“When there’s a power-struggle, each person in the struggle is trying to control what the other person perceives of as reality, based on a construct that person has formed, to protect their emotional defense system.”

“Every time you make a limiting decision, it obscures consciousness. It obscures your connection to reality, to the Divine. And then when you clear the limiting decision, it removes the obstacle. So as you remove the limiting decisions, experience becomes more and more transparent until there are no limiting decisions left, and you are totally clear.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing.”

“A leader is a person who is accessing reality from their own experience and expressing that. He or she has a fix on reality in a way that others don’t. They have a very strong knowing that something is very important and must be said and is really true. And the truth of it causes people to recognize it. When someone speaks truth you know it, whether or not you’re willing to listen to it, or have a trigger against it. But truth rings true. It has a big effect. And the fact that leaders are connected to truth, makes them leaders.”

“In the course of some interaction in the group, something comes up, something is activated. There’s energy happening, there’s possibilities. And we’re opening up to find out what truth is. We don’t know the answer yet, and we’re standing in the question. There is then a possibility of things configuring, or reconfiguring so we can find out something we didn’t know before. It’s an exploring kind of thing. But generally what happens is you jump in and say, “It’s this, this and this,” and fill in the space before truth can come into the picture.”

“The only reason a person isn’t getting what they need is if they have a limiting decision blocking the channel for receiving what it is they need. That means, by definition, that no one can give it to them, because they have the channel closed. If they didn’t have the channel closed, they wouldn’t be needy. So the issue is not to keep pouring things at them, but to facilitate the opening of the channel, if they are interested in opening up the channel. If they’re not, then that’s what they’re creating.”