Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

The question is what you are committed to. From a shallow kind of perspective, people can be committed to what makes them feel good in the moment. And so when things get difficult they just leave. On the other side of the pendulum …

“We’ve pretty much gone past the place where you are much affected by what other people think of you. What I see is that you’re tremendously more in your power than you’ve ever been.”

“What it keeps turning out that this group is about, is uncovering the masks and defense systems, in order to get to the real self. And the real self is gold, totally gold.”

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/16/09 (Names of participants are changed to protect their privacy.) (To Jocelyn) “The defense system that keeps your investment in being a victim in place, affects everything you do, because your unconscious mind is in charge and is invested in proving [...]

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/16/09 (Names of participants are changed to protect their privacy.) (Randy said that his wife is no longer accusing him of being passive-aggressive and they haven’t been fighting this past week. This is the first time since he has been in [...]

“I don’t know lots of things. I stand in the question. That’s how I end up knowing things. I walk into the situation, and I know nothing. And so I’m looking, I’m waiting, I’m listening. And then I know something. It just sort of pours in.”

“What frequently happens is I work really hard to get someone to see what the issue is, and then immediately they want me to tell them what the solution is so they can get rid of it without having acknowledged the truth of it in the first place.”

“If I puncture someone’s defense system, then the real material starts coming out. That’s what happened last time with Jocelyn. It happened previously with Janet. And it’s happening with Aaron. The person relates, hiding behind by his defense system, thinking that he is protected from the painful, limiting decision against himself underneath it.”

“The truth is you can’t combat truth from overwhelming you. It’s supposed to overwhelm you because it’s supposed to transform you. It’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. It frees you.”

“Understanding that ‘life is meant to work’ seems to be the big evolutionary challenge for human beings, because every limiting decision people make boils down to some form of ‘life is not meant to work.’”