Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“Men tend to easily see themselves as the center of the universe, and women tend to see the men as the center of the universe, and there is a lot of conflict that happens because of that. But both men and women are evolving and bringing more balance to this.”

“The truth is you can’t combat truth from overwhelming you. It’s supposed to overwhelm you because it’s supposed to transform you. It’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. It frees you.”

“And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority.”

“There’s a plus and minus for a man feeling he has to be the sole provider. The plus (which is not in reality) is carrying this heavy load is something he can get mastery of, something he can feel in control of, so it makes him feel powerful.”

“Every time you make a limiting decision, it obscures consciousness. It obscures your connection to reality, to the Divine. And then when you clear the limiting decision, it removes the obstacle. So as you remove the limiting decisions, experience becomes more and more transparent until there are no limiting decisions left, and you are totally clear.”

“Men can tend to lean on invulnerable logic, as if that gives them some mastery, rather than being in a place where you just allow things to be what they are — a more organic place where you are feeling things, you are experiencing things, and the black and white mastery is not so important. Being present and in the feeling, growing, learning, evolving, transforming is more of a female thing.”

“A leader is a person who is accessing reality from their own experience and expressing that. He or she has a fix on reality in a way that others don’t. They have a very strong knowing that something is very important and must be said and is really true. And the truth of it causes people to recognize it. When someone speaks truth you know it, whether or not you’re willing to listen to it, or have a trigger against it. But truth rings true. It has a big effect. And the fact that leaders are connected to truth, makes them leaders.”

“Your parents probably had an attitude that it’s a moral mandate that you must do what your parents tell you to do. You must be obedient, no matter what they say, just for the sake of being obedient, rather than look at what they’re saying, make sense of it and decide, ‘OK, this is how they feel about it. Does this make sense for me?’ This dictates that you must not understand life from your own perspective, your own understanding of what is true and real, in order for you parents to have control over you. And this basically is what is handed down from generation to generation.”

“Besides specific, individual limiting decisions, there are limiting decisions that permeate entire cultures, and those that are global, representing where humanity has evolved at that particular point-in-time. Our collective limiting decisions affect the whole social concept of how to earn a living, how to keep social order, how to raise children, etc. These ways of being in life are substitutes for Divine Truth, separating humanity from what really matters to us.”

“In order to be in the present moment, self-interest is a crucial element. If you’re not connected to what matters to you, personally, and if you’re not following that path of what really matters to you in every moment… It’s crucially important. That’s how you define reality.”