Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

The issue here is who or what is defining your experience of reality. Is it being defined from outside yourself or from inside yourself? In the old paradigm it was your boss, and the structure of the company, that was defining what your value was, according to how well you fit into what serves the interests of the company and/or the people who control it. … But this definition of value is limited by the particular perspectives of the people who control it. It is therefore defined by a human construct, which is not necessarily aligned with what is inherently true. Human constructs can’t define your actual value.

The question is what you are committed to. From a shallow kind of perspective, people can be committed to what makes them feel good in the moment. And so when things get difficult they just leave. On the other side of the pendulum …

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“Generally what happens (in the model I use), is every time a person makes a limiting decision, they are building up an alternative self…”

Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings during an NLP TimeLine Therapy Session with Janine 6-29-09: (Name is changed to protect client’s privacy.) “What causes people to make limiting decisions is some event occurs in your life that you don’t have the conscious tools to make sense of. You’re in an experience of the unknown. So you [...]

“…You have used your solidity, your strength, your ‘can’t knock you over’ to hold in place your defense system. But that’s not serving you. It’s not allowing you to evolve further…”

“…When children reach adolescence, they start rebelling against their parents. They start saying ‘I don’t believe what you believe. I don’t think what you think. And I don’t want what you want.’…”

“…once you acknowledge what the other person is saying, reveal your response to it, whether you disagree or agree, you’ve made a connection…”

“…When the illusion of reality that most people live in, that they think is what is really supporting them, when they go past it, it seems to be a really big transition. It is about shifting survival systems.”

“The issue here is whether trying to manipulate truth works better than truth. Following truth takes radical faith in life, in truth, in things working to the best and highest interest for everyone concerned…”