Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“Generally what happens (in the model I use), is every time a person makes a limiting decision, they are building up an alternative self…”

“When it comes to taking an action, enlightened self-interest is vitally important. It’s how you know what to do. It’s the guidance forward. It’s the connection with here-and-now reality.”

“The issue here is whether trying to manipulate truth works better than truth. Following truth takes radical faith in life, in truth, in things working to the best and highest interest for everyone concerned…”

“Whatever is really important to you, whatever really matters to you — even if you can only get a hold of something that is based on a limiting decision and therefore somewhat off kilter — you have to start with where you are at, and follow it down to getting deeper and truer, and deeper and truer, to get some solid ground. Nothing will ever be right between the two of you if you are not on solid ground, no matter how she reacts to it. You need to start getting to a base of reality, or there’s just no hope.”

“In order to be in the present moment, self-interest is a crucial element. If you’re not connected to what matters to you, personally, and if you’re not following that path of what really matters to you in every moment… It’s crucially important. That’s how you define reality.”