Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

It’s not about what the person wants that’s the issue, but what is motivating him wanting it. If it’s substituting for some emotional need that he doesn’t have access to receiving, because he doesn’t have the channels open, it won’t work and will conflict with you.

What’s more important than taking certain actions, or changing your behavior in relation to her, is changing your insides.

The internal dilemmas the younger generations are encountering are on a much more evolved level, and are more in tune with present-moment experience, than that of many of their parents.

Out of fear of losing this security, people lock themselves into a particular form, rather than paying attention to and evolving whatever is really true between them, as well as growing and evolving themselves.

If, instead of having a knee jerk negative response to his input, you can step back and investigate whatever might be true in what he is presenting to you, then yes… useful insights as a result…

Being in integrity with himself is not about the action Sally’s husband (I’m calling Jake) decides to take one way or the other. It’s the process by which he gets there.

…if you take a ridged stand on a judgment about what this means about his character, you have shut the door to a way forward.

People who are invested in finding scapegoats for their suffering are looking in the wrong direction for any real solutions, and are invested in holding in place vibrations of misery, hatred and pain.

The illusion being created by the attacker it is not about the actual possible physical harm that could be imposed.

The people who do these kinds of hateful acts, are like lightening-rods. They serve as an outlet for the kinds of emotions that people don’t generally find acceptable in themselves.