Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

People who are invested in finding scapegoats for their suffering are looking in the wrong direction for any real solutions, and are invested in holding in place vibrations of misery, hatred and pain.

The illusion being created by the attacker it is not about the actual possible physical harm that could be imposed.

The people who do these kinds of hateful acts, are like lightening-rods. They serve as an outlet for the kinds of emotions that people don’t generally find acceptable in themselves.

If you are firmly in your present moment experience, and not being triggered by a limiting decision, you can’t be pulled into the world of the attacker.

an underlying reality that is at the core of our experience, that is supporting it, that is supporting all that is true and real in us, the essence of who we are, and what really matters to us.

I’m always sacrificing my own welfare for the benefit of my husband and my parents, in order to make them happy.

Our physical body is, instead, a vehicle for the expression of who we are, not who we actually are.

The source of it, for those who have this unhealed issue, is a deep pain that they’re not powerful, or they’re not good enough as a man.

People don’t generally realize that our internal state is caused by our interpretation of how we are affected, rather than something objective out in the world that is happening to us.

Approaching this by trying to get him to focus more time on you is an attempt to control what can’t be controlled in reality, and it is a backwards approach to the problem.