Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

The real danger is not the physical action someone might take that would be harmful to us, but it is the distorting of reality that is transferred, like a computer virus hidden within a Trojan horse.

“…We’re talking about really being true to yourself, which means you honor your real emotions, which is the only way a relationship could possibly work in the first place. …”

“Taking the action is not the most important thing. The important thing is to straighten out whatever is causing the conflict about the action…”

“… You don’t have to be in pain in order to be vulnerable. Vulnerability really has to do with love. And actually the bottommost truth about the painful areas we’ve been talking about has to do with love…”

“Men tend to easily see themselves as the center of the universe, and women tend to see the men as the center of the universe, and there is a lot of conflict that happens because of that. But both men and women are evolving and bringing more balance to this.”

“Change often doesn’t happen until you’re forced to because the old structure no longer works. This is because change often feels like you are jumping off a cliff. Because of the limiting decision, you don’t do what would be realistic to do, because the limiting decision causes you to believe there is no resource or possibility there. Therefore, thinking of going in that direction seems very foolish. And very possibly if you went in that direction anyway, since you didn’t see the opportunity, it wouldn’t work because of the way the limiting decision has structured your experience of reality.”