Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

“…the whole idea in the group is to let the real stuff come up and then explore it deeper and deeper until we get to the truth underneath it…”

“…You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you…”

“…The person outside there will never accommodate the reality you want them to have because you’re picking this exact person that wouldn’t do that. And then you try to change them…”

“Taking the action is not the most important thing. The important thing is to straighten out whatever is causing the conflict about the action…”

“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now…”

“…You can’t make a relationship work from a place of lies, or from a place of being untrue to yourself. It’s against the laws of reality. It’s against the laws of truth…”

“… You are not meant to look like other people, thank God. There is something very amazing and special about you. You are so present in some way, so vulnerably true to who you are…”

“…Each of you are struggling to be in control of defining reality, as if you need the other person to agree with your reality, and they need you to agree with theirs…”

“…When people reveal where they’re really at, where they think something negative is going to happen, what actually happens is it makes them accessible to other people — for them to love you…”

“… You don’t have to be in pain in order to be vulnerable. Vulnerability really has to do with love. And actually the bottommost truth about the painful areas we’ve been talking about has to do with love…”