In this preview I share the personal journey that brought me to a totally positive new thought system, based on the principle “Life is Meant to Work.” This thought system, combined with my NLP training, is what has enabled me to facilitate profound life-changing results for my clients for the past 14 years.

I also describe some of the basic ideas from this thought system, addressing these 3 topics:

• “Limiting Decisions: How Your Perception of Reality Gets Distorted”
• “Is Life Meant to Work, or Is It Not?”
• “Self-interest vs. Enlightened Self-Interest”

In addition you’ll get the main details of what is included in the “Life is Meant to Work” program.

(See below for some excerpts from the audio.)

To listen to the preview call, go to:  http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WgVjqYvs

For the complete details about the “Life is Meant to Work” Teleseminar, go to: http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs043/1102365022849/archive/1103533414633.html

I hope you enjoy the audio, and I welcome any comments, responses or questions you might have.

Warmly,

Jane Ilene Cohen
(760) 753-0733

Excerpts from the Preview Call

“When I took a stand on life is meant to work, it’s like I walked through a portal or a gateway in which a whole other landscape was now visible or available to me. And I started tapping into a whole body of knowledge that I had no idea of before.”

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“The reason ‘The Secret’ and the Law of Attraction has become so popular is it is about being able to manifest into our lives what we desire, rather than feeling at the mercy of forces outside of ourselves.  But many people have difficulty in making this work for themselves, or have success with it only in specific and limited areas of their lives.  Really understanding how to effectively use the Law of Attraction requires much more than what is generally taught, and represents a step forward in the human evolutionary process. The meaning of this goes way beyond being able to manifest a certain number of dollars per month, or buying the fancy new sports car.  It is a shift in where we understand our source of safety and well-being comes from.”

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“From the very individual perspective to the larger global perspective, many people experience life as not working.  But they don’t understand how we are participating in creating this, just believing it to be the nature of how life is.  And therefore we are looking in the wrong direction for solutions.”

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“We experience reality as something objective that is external to us, and that imposes itself on us.  But our perception of reality is, in fact, very subjective and changeable, because we are never experiencing reality directly.  We are only experiencing a model of reality.  There are thousands of bits of information that are bombarding our senses every moment, and it would be impossible to take all of it in.  So we filter in a very small percentage of it, and filter out most of it.  What we decide to filter in or out is very subjective and changeable. This means, to a large degree, we are choosing our experience of reality, as opposed to reality imposing itself on us.”

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“Our internal state is caused by our interpretation of what is happening out in the world, rather than something objective that is happening to us.  And we don’t realize that our interpretations are very often a result of projecting our limiting decisions onto something or someone outside of ourselves.”

“It’s crucial to understand how subjective, changeable and effectible our experience or perception of reality is, in order to have a choice about what to do about it.  Most people believe this instability has to do the nature of reality, and don’t realize that it’s actually internal to themselves.  And since the internal process causing it is generally very unconscious, what we end up doing about it is also an unconscious process, which often doesn’t end up serving us.”

To listen to the preview call, go to:  http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WgVjqYvs

For the complete details about the “Life is Meant to Work” Teleseminar, go to: http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs043/1102365022849/archive/1103533414633.html

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.

This question is from Jered in San Diego, CA
(Real names are never used.)

Jered: As we all know, the head of BP Oil is being crucified in the press. From my perspective, his personal comments to the public and Congress are the sincere truth.  His people are working around the clock to solve the problem. He goes home to the UK for personal family time and to get a few hours of fresh air. Certainly, his mind is preoccupied. Yet no matter what he does or says that is truthful – the public is unsatisfied. How does one handle these situations? It’s as though the truth is insufficient as compared to a carefully postured response.

Jane:  We don’t really know the character of Tony Hayward, the CEO of BP, or really what responsibility he does or doesn’t hold for what occurred.  But I agree that he may very well be saying the sincere truth, but that many people want a scapegoat.  They want someone to emotionally pay for their suffering, as if that would make them feel better.

The whole idea of sharing the suffering seems to be very strong in people.  If I am suffering, then you ought to be suffering also — or you don’t care, you are selfish, you are a bad person.  But this has nothing to do with any real solutions, or any easing of human pain.

This is a triggered kind of emotional response, and not reality-based.  Whether Mr. Hayward is outwardly suffering or not, has no actual benefit to anyone who is suffering because of the oil spill.  It won’t have any effect on solutions being found any faster, or people getting compensated any faster.

People who are invested in finding scapegoats for their suffering are looking in the wrong direction for any real solutions, and are invested in holding in place vibrations of misery, hatred and pain.  As a result, I would guess, this is only one of many sources of misery in their lives, as this is what they would attract.

To answer your question more directly, about how to handle this kind of situation:  Rather than the focus being on how other people might respond to us, as if that is the source of our well-being, and trying to cater to them, the real dialog is between oneself and a larger perspective, beyond the limited human scope of things.  In other words, specifically in relation to Mr. Hayward, I’m sure there are lessons for him to learn, or he wouldn’t have found himself in this kind of situation in the first place.  For example it is possible that he might have an emotional defense system of keeping himself at a distance from getting emotionally or personally involved in general, believing that that will keep him safe.  This experience could rock that defense system, and be a huge wake-up call for him.  Perhaps if he had been more personally involved, he may have prevented what happened.

* Limiting Decisions: Unconscious decisions, usually made before the age of 6 or 7, such as “I am bad,” “I am not good enough.”  “People can’t be trusted.”  They are always some form of deciding that life doesn’t work, and usually that there is something inherently wrong with you.

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
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Part Three of a Three Part Dialog

To read Part One, click here.  To read Part Two, click here.

Question from Manny from Rancho Santa Fe (real names are never used):

Manny: What does the evolved person think about in a situation in which they are being physically attacked, besides trying to physical ward off one’s attacker or escape without harm?

Jane: That depends on where you are in your personal journey, what you have the capability of doing.  The main challenge is to get yourself out of an emotionally triggered state (caused by limiting decisions*), which most people would be very much in.  You want to get yourself, instead, in a resourceful state, in which you are relating to the actual reality of the situation, rather than the distorted one the attacker is representing.  So in other words, instead of entering into the attacker’s distorted world, you connect with what is actually true in reality.  So it’s just a question of how much your internal world resonates with the attacker’s distorted world, and how much you are able to bring yourself out of his world and into a positive and resourceful one.  That determines how well you’re likely do in that situation, and what resources you’re likely to be able to tap into.  The objective is to get so strong in orienting your reality around a larger truth that you don’t get pulled into this kind of distorted illusion of reality.

Being a victim is a state of mind, not a physical circumstance, and is not determined by how physically strong you are or aren’t.  It is not about whatever you might experience physically, but the state of mind you get into, in whatever the circumstances you find yourself in.

The illusion being created by the attacker it is not about the actual possible physical harm that could be imposed.  It is about the hateful, fearful, separating, substitute world that he is representing.  This world is holding in place the illusion that hate and negativity are more powerful than love.  It is about the distorted meaning that is attached to whatever physical action is happening.  And that distorted meaning is really what the attacker is invested in.  If you are not buying into that distortion, it is less likely you’ll end up being physically harmed.  And if you are physically harmed, it will not be so traumatic to you emotionally.  And there will be some learning in there for you that will move you forward on your evolutionary path.

What the evolved person does in his or her mind is ask for inner or Divine guidance, in all situations, especially including ones in which there appears to be no solutions, such as what you are describing.  They call upon the larger truth, universal wisdom, a perspective beyond their own limited human perception, and beyond their limiting decisions.

The totally enlightened person is always in contact with their Guidance, which guides every moment in their lives.  And so they are always being guided to the best place for them to be in for their highest good.  They are so much in their power that everything that happens to them is in alignment with the larger truth.

* Limiting Decisions: Unconscious decisions, usually made before the age of 6 or 7, such as “I am bad,” “I am not good enough.”  “People can’t be trusted.”  They are always some form of deciding that life doesn’t work, and usually that there is something inherently wrong with you.

Truth is a fundamental element in real experience.  It connects our common reality, and is the foundation of it.  It is what gives us real stability.  And yet people often feel they have to avoid it, in order to keep the stability of the substitute worlds they are holding in place.  At the same time, we assume mutual understanding between each other about what is actually true.  We all have had the experience of knowing when the truth is obvious, such as when the indication of truth becomes so massive there is no way to avoid seeing it, or knowing it.

Truth is transparency.  It’s seeing what is really there.  Being truthful means conforming to actuality, to reality. It’s as though we’re usually living in an opaque atmosphere, which is masking what is actually true.  And some people can see through it more than others can.  And there are also times or certain conditions that happen in common human experience where that atmosphere thins out, and becomes for the moment, transparent, when something is so apparently true that no one can miss it.

People try to hide many pieces of truth, because of what seems to be either in their own self-interest or the self-interest of someone else, feeling as though they know what the repercussions would be if they didn’t.  And sometimes it seems to work, and sometimes it doesn’t.  In interpersonal relationships, in which the relationship really matters to you, if you don’t open it up to truth everywhere possible, it limits the potential of the relationship.  But truth means engaging and getting involved, because it often takes you down a path you hadn’t anticipated, outside of your control.  It has a life of its own.  It is connected to a reality beyond what you could possibly conceive of, beyond the perspective and scope of limited human perception.

When we speak “the truth” we are revealing something that is objective.  It is something we don’t control.  It’s not about giving an opinion or advice, or making a judgment.  Those can often be done without consciousness. Truth is more conscious than that.  It has to do with revealing where you are. There is a difference between giving an opinion or advice — and being aware that we gave it.  Our opinion, advice or judgment may or may not reflect truth, but it is true that we had those thoughts and ideas, and gave them.  Our responses and ideas can come from many sources, some connected to inspiration and some connected to limited human perception.  When they are connected to limited human perception, then the value of having expressed the idea is not about the content of it, but is about having revealed something true about you.  And the truth that is revealed is the fact that you had this idea.  That is what is true.  The content of the idea, itself, could be described as a reflection of your limited perception, which didn’t make it past the walls of your defended self.  You can either embrace the truth revealed by that or go in the opposite direction.  If you embrace it, it can lead to your transformation, and therefore, evolution.

If, your thought comes from inspiration instead of coming from limited human perception, then you are tapping into Divine Source, and the content, itself, then reflects what is true.  You have reached beyond your defended self where you are just reflecting back on yourself, and have broken through to a larger and real Source.  And so in this scenario you are coming to truth from two directions:  The content of the thought itself, as well as the fact that you had that thought.

Everyone inherently knows that truth is extremely powerful.  But what they don’t know is if truth is for them, against them, or just arbitrary?  And so people tend to feel afraid of its power and therefore often control it from being revealed. And so whether truth is for or against us, or is arbitrary, is the real issue.  Everything hinges on the answer.  Whichever we decide, and whichever the truth of it is, determines the world and reality we are living in.

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Our perception of reality is extremely impressionable, and can change from moment to moment, depending on how we interpret the experiences we have in life.  We can feel up or down, depending on if things are going our way or not.  If, for example, money is currently abundant, or we just got a new client, we may feel that life is good and feel very empowered.  But maybe the next week, we lose several clients, and our boy or girl friend leaves us, and our best friend is angry at us.  And this then triggers limiting decisions*, such as we are a failure.  And so then we may feel very negatively about life.  And then, perhaps, the following month the person we have a crush on calls and asks us on a date, and business sales start coming in.  And for the moment we are no longer feeling like a failure.  Most people define their experience of reality according to what is happening in the external world around them.  And that puts us in a very disempowered position, because we are dependent on what the world around us does, and how it responds to us, for our sense of well-being.

People don’t generally realize that our internal state is caused by our interpretation of how we are affected, rather than something objective out in the world that is happening to us.  And we don’t realize that our interpretations are very often a result of projecting our limiting decisions* onto something or someone outside of ourselves.  Interpreting our experience of life in this way is orienting our lives around the world external to ourselves as the source we are dependent on, which puts us in an unstable, uncentered state.

Now there are many people who, to a large degree, have a certain amount of emotional stability, and generally create a positive world around them.  But depending upon the kind or intensity of how they are affected, they can also be completely knocked off of their usual sense of reality.  And, besides individual limiting decisions* being triggered, that has to do with commonly held beliefs about the nature of reality.

We are generally dependent on the extremes of other people’s negative behaviors being controlled in order for us to keep a positive sense of reality.  You could say that’s what defines a civilized world.  And when we find ourselves in situations in which this extreme is being acted out in our presence, an overwhelming perception of reality that we usually keep in our unconscious gets brought to the surface, like a nightmare or boogeyman.  And that’s what makes the idea of someone perpetrating some violent act particularly difficult for us to deal with.  It resonates with deep-seated, primal beliefs about the nature of reality.

Perhaps it’s the reason for the popularity of horror films, or the reason there is so much violence in movies and on TV.  You could say it brings that material out in the open.  But they are not being brought out in a way that can bring truth or healing.  And I think that is because the general human consensus is that dark, destructive forces have huge power over us.  And the best we can do is keep them submerged in the unconscious — or, from a child’s perspective, in the closet and under the bed.

It’s crucial to understand how subjective, changeable and effectible our experience or perception of reality is, in order to have a choice about what to do about it.  Most people believe this instability has to do the nature of reality, and don’t realize that it’s actually internal to themselves.  And since the internal process causing it is generally very unconscious, what they end up doing about it is also an unconscious process, which often doesn’t end up serving them.

*Limiting decisions are decisions made usually before the age of 6 or 7 years old, that are some form of deciding that there is something inherently wrong with you, and/or some form of that life doesn’t work — Such as “I am bad,” “I am worthless,” “People can’t be trusted.”

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Life is a living dialog that we are constantly engaged in.  Our whole organism is a very fine-tuned, living instrument that has many means for taking in information, and is highly responsive.  When we are affected we have a response.  And this begins a dialog.  Your response is some form of communication, which reveals something about you.  And your response then affects the world around you, which then responds to you, revealing something about it, as well as how you affected it, which then reveals more about you.  In this process you come in contact with increasingly more about who you are in your own evolving process.  It’s like an opening up, like a flower.  You may discover aspects of yourself that you don’t like or that need healing, and you may discover more of who you really are, in your magnificence.

The human dynamic of dialog is a major way the human evolutionary process works.  We inherently have the potential to evolve, and to evolve quickly, because we so easily get affected and respond.  But the human organism is not set up to evolve as quickly as this potential.  It has its own timing.  The human evolutionary process has been a process of starting with very dense, limited, contracted physical material, and expanding on many different levels to light-filled, clear, expanded consciousness — basically a coming into our own divine presence.  In other words, we, as human organisms, are going through an expanding process, that keeps stretching us beyond where we currently are.  It is stretching us on a physical, cellular level; on a mental level; on an energetic, vibrational level; on an emotional level; and probably on many more levels than I can think of.

In any area in which they have limiting decisions*, people usually find ways to avoid present moment interaction, and are therefore slowing down their evolutionary process.  Among these mechanisms are avoiding truthful, live interactions with each other, through using social codes of behavior, such as what is considered to be polite, how people are expected to act in interactions with each other.  For instance we routinely notice things about each other that we don’t talk about, because it would reveal personal truths that there is an unspoken agreement not to talk about.

Another example is the social expectation that if you relate certain ways to people, you can expect certain kinds of responses in return, which puts things in a kind of formula that people can hide behind.  For instance, if you start talking to someone about some subject, they would probably feel obliged to listen to you, even if they are finding it not interesting.  And that then would allow you to not have to deal with whatever the issue in you is that causes people not to want to listen to you.

There used to be a lot more social rules that people followed than there are today.  People are now more routinely relating more honestly with each other.  And this allows the evolutionary process to move more quickly.

*Limiting decision: A decision made in early childhood that is some form of that life doesn’t work, and usually that there is something inherently wrong with you — such as “I am powerless,” “bad,” “without value;” or “The world is a dangerous place,” “People can’t be trusted,” and so on.

To listen to the Preview audio for the next “Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, click here.

For the info page with all of the details about the upcoming “Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, click here.

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.

This question is from Chad in Rancho Santa Fe:

Chad: Let’s say a friend of yours has a limiting decision* that they’re stupid, and you point out something to them that they did that ends up triggering that feeling in them.  Then you are suddenly affronted by the fact that the person was triggered, even though you didn’t do anything to them on purpose.  So the question is what do you do when someone gets triggered by some innocent remark you made?

Jane:  First of all it depends on the particular type of relationship you have with the person, how vulnerable you want to be, how much energy you want to put into it.  If this person is someone with whom the relationship really matters, I would say the healthy response would be to reveal to the person how you are responding to him.  Relating in general is about revealing whatever is going on inside of you in response to each other.  When you get affected, that is the beginning of a dialog, and so then you respond by revealing where you are. You always can participate in a dialog, which is honestly revealing where you are.  If you’re triggered and you know it, you can reveal you’re triggered.

Chad: I’d like to have the way to deal with it when it’s happening, like a script.

Jane: Having a script is not the solution. You have to reveal where you are in the moment, which is more of an emotional risk.  And since it’s revealing, it’s vulnerable, as opposed to judging or attacking.  You might say, for instance, “I feel upset and surprised that you had that response.  I didn’t mean what I said to be a criticism.  What did it mean to you?”  Or you might say, “I feel really triggered by your reaction, as I thought what I said was just a neutral comment.  It’s bringing up in me concerns that it’s not safe to say what’s on my mind.  Why was this upsetting to you?”

It is leaning on truth to move things forward, versus leaning on mollifying the other person, or manipulating things to calm him down, and not have things get out of hand, and upsetting.  And you can do that, and try to calm things down, but it won’t get anywhere.  It won’t be a deepening of the relationship.  It won’t evolve things forward, because it won’t be bringing anything to truth.  And it’s also not respecting the other person. If it’s a relationship that matters to you, then you want to get to truth.  And you start with yourself, by revealing the truth of where you are, and trusting the larger medium that you’re both under — which is what I call the larger source, or Intelligence or Truth — to bring a larger perspective beyond the individual experience, and move things forward.  If you allow the larger truth to be there, it opens possibilities. It makes things clearer.  Whereas you could never figure it out with limited human intelligence to manipulate the situation in order to have this and that work out.  But if you put truth in there, then perhaps you or perhaps the other person might see something you never saw before, or maybe something might happen that opens things up.  And it might get messy for a while, but if both of you stay in the dialog, then you’ll get to a deeper place of truth.

* Limiting decisions are unconscious decisions made in childhood that are always some form of deciding that life is not meant to work, and usually that there is something inherently wrong with you, such as:  “I’m not valuable,” “I’m powerless,” “the world is a dangerous place.”

The life of every living organism must be based on self-interest.  Every moment of our lives is based on it.  Breathing, eating, sleeping, loving, helping others.  A plant turns toward the sun in order to get the nourishment it needs.  And it’s flourishing gives us pleasure.  If it were to deny itself what it needs to do well, would we think it was being virtuous?  The very nature of life is based on self-interest.  You are ALWAYS doing what you conceive of as self-interest, even if it’s denying your self-interest in order to be what you believe to be virtuous.  The reason you would do this is because it makes you feel better about yourself.  If doing what you believe to be virtuous ended up making you feel bad about yourself, you wouldn’t do it.

Following your own self-interest defines who you are.  It is the expression of who you are.  When you are allowing yourself to move toward your enlightened self-interest you are contributing who you are to the whole.  You are revealing a piece of creation.

Even if you are not connected to your enlightened self-interest, you must start with the self-interest you can access in order to move toward more enlightened self-interest.  Those who deny their self-interest are living in an artificial shell, a false persona, in a false world.  They are not authentic.  Life around them is devoid of anything real, and therefore anything of real nourishment or value.

Before you made limiting decisions, and before you started creating false personas and false worlds, you were living in a state of true self-interest, i.e. what really benefited you.  Your focus was on life, truth, experience.  You were led by what mattered to you.  That is what guided your every moment — opening up your life, experience, and development.  You were participating in living, flowing, experiential truth.

What makes suicide bombers so frightening and difficult to combat is their denial of the most basic self-interest of being alive. They, presumably, believe they are following the self-interest of doing what it takes to be virtuous, by doing God’s work.  And they look forward to their reward in some version of heaven.

The people who are the most disconnected from their own most basic self-interest are the ones who act in ways that are the most distorted and dysfunctional.  And it generally results in out of control behavior, under the radar of consciousness.  For example people who are immersed in fundamental, repressive religious dogma, who can find no legitimate outlet for their human desires, can tend to act out sexually dysfunctional and destructive behavior in situations where they think it can remain hidden or not talked about, such as molesting children.

It is not possible to deny one’s own self-interest. It will be expressed in some form, either in its pure form or, as a result of being denied, in its distorted form.  In its distorted form, it is likely to be destructive.

To listen to the Preview audio for the next “Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, click here.

For the info page with all of the details about the upcoming “Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, click here.

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.

Question from Fellow Healer in New York

Fellow Healer: A dear friend of mine, who has worked the Law of Attraction (LoA) religiously for years, ended up broke at her mom’s house.  She called me distraught wondering why the universe isn’t bringing her the wealth she meditated on.  What the LoA professors neglect to tell us is that our soul is on a journey and that journey will be fulfilled.  Soul trumps LoA.  My friend now sees that going home offered her valuable healing time with her family and was vital to her path.

Jane: I agree with your conclusion that the soul’s journey trumps everything else.  However, the Law of Attraction does work perfectly, and people are always manifesting, but not necessarily what they consciously desire.  To manifest what you consciously desire, there has to be some combination of alignment between the conscious mind, the unconscious mind, and the higher self (i.e. the soul’s path).  When the conscious mind is in alignment with the unconscious mind, you are likely to manifest what you consciously want.  What causes conscious/unconscious mind misalignment are limiting decisions*.  Limiting decisions cause misalignment with what is really true.  They then cause the person to manifest the distortion that the unconscious mind now believes to be true.  I.e. if the person decides there is not enough, that is what they will manifest.  When the limiting decision* is cleared, the unconscious mind now aligns itself with the truth of abundance.

But the soul’s journey also affects how effective particular people are at manifesting what they desire.  Many people use, or try to use, the Laws of Attraction to manifest things that are not necessarily in their highest best interest (which also is a result of limiting decisions*).  At some point in the soul’s journey, the higher self does not allow that.  So this then requires the soul to evolve to going toward what truly benefits them — what I refer to as “enlightened self-interest” — before they will be effective at manifesting what they desire.

* Limiting decisions are unconscious decisions made in early childhood, and are always some form of deciding life is not meant to work and/or there is something inherently wrong with you.

There are certain cornerstones about the nature of reality that humanity in general holds in place that are out of alignment with larger truth.  These cornerstones are what the problems humanity faces are based upon.  And even many of those who have expanded their consciousness beyond that limited perspective — when it comes down to what their lives depend upon — are really standing on the old foundation for their reality.

To most people their perception of reality just is what is, and they don’t question the truth of it.  But our perception of reality is, in fact, very subjective and changeable.  There are many more bits of information that are bombarding our senses every moment than we can possibly take in.  We filter out most of it.  What bits of reality we take in, and what we filter out, is very subjective.

Perceptions of reality are held in place by individuals, by families and other kinds of groups, by countries, on up to the global human experience.  The more people holding a perception of reality in place, the more real the perception appears to be.  But that has nothing to do with the truth of the perception.

The thought system I will be teaching in the”Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, shifts the old reality perceptions to be in alignment with larger truths.

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For the info page with all of the details about the upcoming “Life is Meant to Work” Tele-seminar, click here.