Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teaching during the
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/23/09
(Participants’ names have been changed to protect their privacy.)
(Anita said she doesn’t feel safe in the group because, when she reveals her real responses, someone in the group often has a defensive response to it.)
(To Anita) “The reason you feel it’s not safe is because, like Aaron– and maybe you (Aaron) can help Anita in this if you can see it in relation to her — you think that you have to get it right, or something bad will happen. This isn’t about getting it right. Aaron has been trying for a long time to get it right. And doing that is the problem, not the solution. Being who you are and showing who you are is perfect. There’s no right way to do it. So if you show up and your defense system is showing, so what. If you show up and you say a word that someone takes offense to, so what. If something is uncovered about you, that’s perfectly fine. It’s part of a process for getting deeper. There isn’t a right way to do it. This is not about you figuring out how to do it right. And that’s what you are trying to do, and it’s a losing battle, because that’s not where this is going. You think you being able to figure out how to get it right is the only way to have it be safe. And that’s a mistaken idea. That’s a limiting decision that has nothing to do with reality. You’re perfectly safe here, even if your defense systems are showing all over the place, and you keep on getting it ‘not right.’ This is about transformation, not about getting it right.
Perhaps the issue is actually more about engaging and interacting. For you, disengaging may be what feels safe. And this group is about engaging. And that’s why ‘getting it right’ has no relevance, because ‘getting it right’ doesn’t have to do with engaging. In the process of engaging, ‘getting it right’ is irrelevant. “
