Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

Introduction:

This blog thread is chronicling the journey of three of my clients who are in the process of transforming their financial realities from very difficult financial circumstances — to financial abundance. The three participants are in agreement with me sharing their process, and they may also be participating by adding their own comments. I’ve changed their names in this blog to protect their privacy.

Turning clients’ finances around feels particularly significant to me at this point-in-time because of the global financial meltdown we are experiencing.  Because many people are feeling threatened financially now, I realized that others could greatly benefit from following the amazing journey these courageous people are embarked upon.

The challenge we face is that old, relied upon structures that people lean on for their businesses and lives working, are failing — such as banks not giving loans. But the truth is there is always a way forward, because the Universe is filled with resources. It’s a question of having the channels open to be aware of and receive the resources, and to walk through the open doors.

With each of these three people (as with most of us), before the limiting decisions are cleared, and when things seem to not be working well — it appears that there is no solution, no way forward. The reality seems to be that what is out there (our significant other, our boss, the economy, the government…) is creating an impossible situation. It appears life is not meant to work. But in unraveling what’s holding in place each of these people’s financial predicament that is keeping them unconscious and unresourceful — and as the limiting decisions get cleared, allowing the barriers to come down, the obstacles to dissolve, and the blinders to leave their eyes – we can see, as we follow them on their journeys, the opportunities that were always there, but that they weren’t configured internally to take into their reality. And then through them, we realize that the impossibilities never had anything to do with life itself. It has only to do with our inability to see, our inability to have the channels open to receive what life has to offer us.

Sometimes an issue is held in place by only one or two limiting decisions. Sometimes it’s held in place by many, depending on how many sub-issues are involved, and the complexity of it. These limiting decisions can involve many areas of a person’s life; and in the process of clearing the originating issue, the person finds his or her life has transformed in a very profound and all-encompassing way. This is the case with these three people.

Overview: I am calling the three participants Jered, Cherrie and Bennet. They range in age between 53 – 56. Jered and Cherrie are in very difficult financial straits, although they do have some assets not immediately available to them. Bennet doesn’t experience himself as being in difficult financial straits even though he has no cash and no assets, because he has always felt confident that he can find ways to earn money, if he feels motivated to do it. The problem is he has usually not felt motivated to do it until he runs completely out. As a result of always living on the financial edge, he’s never been able to create the kind of life he would like to have.

Cherrie and Jered had their financial struggles before the global financial meltdown occurred, but when it happened their situations got worse. Cherrie owns a small wholesale business, and sales went way down. Jered finds investors for real estate deals and then develops them and sells them. He’s finding working with banks more difficult now, which is adding to his difficulties. Because Bennet always has lived outside of the social fabric, the financial meltdown doesn’t affect him so much.

Cherrie and Jered have worked with me on and off for a while and have made huge progress in many areas of their lives. Bennet started working with me recently for the purpose of becoming motivated to earn money. The path of turning their financial situations around has been very different for each of them.

I’m bringing you into this process after much progress has already been made. Below is a brief description of each person, a summary of what their original issues were, limiting decisions cleared, and where things currently were when I wrote this.

Very intelligent and creative, Bennet is an out-of-the box thinker. He also loves helping people. He has always managed to survive, but he feels no motivation to earn money until he’s completely out. He has made money at various things, but has felt resistance to being in a position in which he has to pay taxes, because he hasn’t wanted to support the wars the government has perpetrated.

The main area we’ve worked on was his deep alienation from most of humanity, seeing them as mainstream, immediately judging people because of external attributes that triggered him. I would describe it as he often related to the lowest common denominator in people, rather than the highest. Therefore he generally had not been engaged with people, especially in the larger community, and his options for financial abundance had been very limited, mostly to financially living on the edge, or by earning money in gray areas of what is legal. We’ve also been working on self-esteem issues. He has suffered from depression for most of his life.

Transcript Excerpt of a comment Jane made to Bennet during a TimeLine Therapy Counseling session:

“You’re hooking into a very limited vibration in people, and there are so many more vibrations available in each person that you could be hooking into that have nothing to do with a negative and limited way of perceiving things. And so your potential for interaction in the world is limited because of that. What you’re doing is representing a negative paradigm. You’re reinforcing it and holding it in place, and the people you relate to, you’re resonating with that vibration, and therefore you are reinforcing it in them and you.”

Limiting decisions cleared:

– People are ignorant.

- His efforts will be rejected.

- His efforts are not good enough to others.

- Those with the power are irrational monsters.

- The world is barbaric and crude

- People in authority are ill-informed and it comes out against him.

- Authorities are mean to those under them.

- He has to sell out in order to engage in the larger world.

- He can never get what he really wants.

- Who he is is unacceptable to others.

- People in authority are his enemy.

- Authority corrupts people.

- If others have evidence that he failed, he’ll be humiliated.

Bennet started out with having very negative emotions toward engaging in a way that would earn him money. After clearing limiting decisions this has shifted so the negative response is no longer there, but he was still lacking positive motivation. He has not been proactive in the area of making money.

After clearing the most recent limiting decision it appears he is actually feeling positively motivated. In general he no longer fears authority, and no longer feels separated from others. He no longer is dissuaded from pursuing his ideas if he gets negative responses from people. His attitude toward people has become much more positive, he keeps getting increasingly happier and more motivated.

Bennet has had a money-making idea for a while, having to do with a condominium project geared for a particular lifestyle that he is a part of. He felt stopped from following through with this idea by several limiting decisions, which have now been cleared. He is now beginning to take more active steps to making it happen. He is also more motivated to find an immediate source of income. The most recent communication, at the time of this writing, was he was looking into becoming a parole officer, which is really surprising considering how against authority he has been.

(Go to “Bennet Updates” for on-going updates.)

Jered is a sensitive, creative man, and similar to Bennet, lives by his own drumbeat. He’s always experienced himself as being different than other people. His passion is finding solutions or ways of doing things that would make people’s lives better.

He has been in business for himself for a long time. He purchases and sells real estate, and sees the possibilities where others don’t see it, and creates projects based on that. He is generally very resourceful at finding good projects and investors. The actual execution of the projects is where he has had major difficulties, because it requires bringing together a team to work with him on it, in order to bring it to successful completion.

Jered grew up in an environment in which thinking of easier and more effective ways of doing things was frowned upon and only hard physical work was thought to be the worthwhile thing to do. A lot of the work with him has been in relation to him not accepting himself, keeping what he’s really doing hidden, so he never gets credit for his real abilities, and ends up doing things for others for free. He has had difficulty finding business partners and people to support him in his projects. He has also had difficulty being paid for what he’s really good at, because he hasn’t put it out there in a way that gets recognized.

Recent limiting decisions cleared through TimeLine Therapy:

- Who he is is not recognized in the framework of those he’s dependent on.

- Functioning in the physical world is hard.

- He can only succeed with hard physical work.

- He doesn’t have an affect on the common world.

- His contribution doesn’t matter.

Through this work, Jered has become much more at ease with himself and others, much more able to communicate, much more open, and much more effective in his work. He is no longer feeling the sense of futility that was constantly with him.

Excerpt from recent communication:

Jered:

“… What remains elusive to me is no matter how enlightened an individual, what are the net effects of uncontrollable external events?”

Jane’s reply:

“It depends on if you fight your external circumstances in an effort to control outcomes from a fixed perspective. If you do, this end up narrowing the possibilities for you, rather than allowing life to open things up.  Allowing life to open things up requires coming from the foundation that “life is means to work,” and looking for the doors that open up for you.  There are always solutions if you have the channels open to receiving them.  As you know from the work we’ve done, your relationship with your external circumstances can be very much colored by limiting decisions, which put you in an unresourceful place.”

(See “Jered Updates” for on-going updates.)

Cherrie is very energetic and full of life, a talented violinist, and deeply committed to her spiritual path. She began a wholesale business with her husband in 1984, and they had it for over 10 years, during which time they had a good deal of success. They divorced, and decided to let go of the business, as it had been waning by then. Cherrie then began the same kind of business again, on her own. And even though she no longer had as much money at her disposal as she had had when she was married, she kept spending money as if she had. She built up a lot of debt in order to grow her business, but the financial decisions she made did not work well for her, especially when the economy started going sour. She is now having difficulty paying her home mortgage and other bills.

In working with her we discovered a lot of her difficulties in relation to money had to do with her relationship with men. She had always been taken advantage of by men she was in relationship with. As she had when she was in business with her husband, she generally ended up doing most of the work, but still thought she needed the man in order to survive or do well. As is generally the case with people, most of these ways of thinking about things is an unconscious process. Consciously Cherrie knew better, but the unconscious limiting decisions had been undermining her anyway.

Some of the limiting decisions we most recently cleared through TimeLine Therapy:

- She is a failure at supporting herself.

- She is alone in the world.

- She can’t be as successful in the world as a man can.

- Vulnerability (sensitivity) is weak.

- Women are incapable.

- Reality is not safe.

- If she shines she’s taking away from others.

- The source of her survival and well-being is outside of herself.

When things started getting really bad financially Cherrie started waking up every morning in a panic and was under so much stress about surviving she wasn’t able to get herself to take actions to help her situation. After clearing limiting decisions holding that in place, she stopped waking up in a panic and has been able to take resourceful actions. The dilemma she is currently in is whether to give up her business and sell her house so she can pay off her debts, scale her life way down, move to Hawaii and live in a room in a girl friend’s house. Or alternatively, she could keep working to make a go of her business, and somehow hold onto her house. In the meanwhile her credit rating is going down because she can’t pay her bills. Part of her indecision about this is that she doesn’t have a sense of what really means home to her, so she has been unable to figure out what she really wants to do.

In general, because of what we have cleared, Cherrie now is much more empowered in relation to men, and to people in general, staying true to herself. She’s in a relationship with a man, which is more healthy than ones she has had in the past, but challenging her in new ways. She has recently gained a business partner (maybe two), so she doesn’t have to carry it on her own. She has also discovered that the larger businesses in her field are having a harder time surviving the financial crisis than the smaller ones because they don’t have the flexibility. This is giving her more clarity on what the avenues are for her business going forward. She is currently waiting for a financial loan to come through, which would give her the resources to move ahead with her business, or whatever direction she decides to move in in her life.  Her sales have started improving.

(See “Cherrie Updates” for on-going updates.)