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Jill: I’m glad I’m not young during these times, and have the wisdom of my years. It must be much harder for young people to cope with the world today.
Jane: If we were born into the world now, the way we were many years ago when we were actually born — we would be much less equipped to deal with life today than the new generations are. It’s a different experience for the younger generation. They’re set up differently inside than we are, because each generation generally comes into their lifetime more evolved than the previous ones.
They are generally coming in with much more consciousness and more of a sense of who they are. And they are more able to define their experience from their own direct experience, as opposed to relying on external authority.
And they are born into a different world experience than we were born into — with different energy, and a whole different level of knowledge and consciousness than the way the world was when we were born. Generally speaking, people are in vibrational resonance with the world as it is when they are born, which is what astrology is about.
The internal dilemmas the younger generations are encountering are on a much more evolved level, and are more in tune with present-moment experience, than that of many of their parents. Therefore, their parents are totally at sea with what they are dealing with. The old paradigm is you use discipline to act the way you are suppose to act, regardless of how you feel about it. There is a particular standard of behavior you are supposed to meet to be considered good and upright and successful. Many parents can’t understand why their children can’t just force themselves to conform to it. That is what is considered good character. And it used to be acceptable to beat children into submission. To a large degree the older generations, when they were children, didn’t have enough sense of who they were to reject that perspective. But the newer ones can no longer accept that. They are here to solve the actual dilemmas, not to superficially solve it by controlling their external behavior.
The old standards of behavior are human constructs that were a way of creating order for the less evolved stages of human development, because we weren’t connected enough to the truth of present-moment experience to relate directly to life. And that was in addition to the old paradigm perspective of original sin, which results in the idea that being moral requires being other than who we really are. But the newer generations can’t as easily override who they really are, and can’t bend themselves to conform to some made up construct, which they are becoming increasingly more aware hasn’t been working.
Instead they have more of an ability to tap into present-moment truth about themselves and the world around them, which is what I call the “real world.” And the more people tap into the real world of direct knowledge and experience, the faster the evolutionary process occurs. It is a process of bringing us out of the distortions and illusions caused by the collective human history of limiting decisions and emotional defense systems — which is the source of the huge messes humanity is facing — and into the real world where life actually does work wonderfully well.
The young people of today are in a transition between those two worlds. Actually we all are, but to a large extent the younger generations are further along in the transition. Mentally and physiologically, probably on a cellular level, they are more in alignment with the transition that is occurring. But they also don’t yet have much experience in life to draw on, and are not yet physically, emotionally and mentally fully developed. They are in the difficult position of knowing the adults don’t have the answers, but they don’t yet have enough experience to be able to structure themselves.
They are more hard-wired to look for or relate to a larger or more expanded source beyond their parents, but yet they feel cheated out of being able to lean on their parents for answers, because that feels like not having parents. This then puts pressure on the older generations to expand out of their locked-in perceptions of reality that feel safe to them. The shift humanity is going through now means that there no longer is safety in sticking to the old tried and true ways of doing things and thinking about things. Safety no longer lies in maintaining control.
Truth is a fundamental element in real experience. It connects our common reality, and is the foundation of it. It is what gives us real stability. And yet people often feel they have to avoid it, in order to keep the stability of the substitute worlds they are holding in place. At the same time, we assume mutual understanding between each other about what is actually true. We all have had the experience of knowing when the truth is obvious, such as when the indication of truth becomes so massive there is no way to avoid seeing it, or knowing it.
Truth is transparency. It’s seeing what is really there. Being truthful means conforming to actuality, to reality. It’s as though we’re usually living in an opaque atmosphere, which is masking what is actually true. And some people can see through it more than others can. And there are also times or certain conditions that happen in common human experience where that atmosphere thins out, and becomes for the moment, transparent, when something is so apparently true that no one can miss it.
People try to hide many pieces of truth, because of what seems to be either in their own self-interest or the self-interest of someone else, feeling as though they know what the repercussions would be if they didn’t. And sometimes it seems to work, and sometimes it doesn’t. In interpersonal relationships, in which the relationship really matters to you, if you don’t open it up to truth everywhere possible, it limits the potential of the relationship. But truth means engaging and getting involved, because it often takes you down a path you hadn’t anticipated, outside of your control. It has a life of its own. It is connected to a reality beyond what you could possibly conceive of, beyond the perspective and scope of limited human perception.
When we speak “the truth” we are revealing something that is objective. It is something we don’t control. It’s not about giving an opinion or advice, or making a judgment. Those can often be done without consciousness. Truth is more conscious than that. It has to do with revealing where you are. There is a difference between giving an opinion or advice — and being aware that we gave it. Our opinion, advice or judgment may or may not reflect truth, but it is true that we had those thoughts and ideas, and gave them. Our responses and ideas can come from many sources, some connected to inspiration and some connected to limited human perception. When they are connected to limited human perception, then the value of having expressed the idea is not about the content of it, but is about having revealed something true about you. And the truth that is revealed is the fact that you had this idea. That is what is true. The content of the idea, itself, could be described as a reflection of your limited perception, which didn’t make it past the walls of your defended self. You can either embrace the truth revealed by that or go in the opposite direction. If you embrace it, it can lead to your transformation, and therefore, evolution.
If, your thought comes from inspiration instead of coming from limited human perception, then you are tapping into Divine Source, and the content, itself, then reflects what is true. You have reached beyond your defended self where you are just reflecting back on yourself, and have broken through to a larger and real Source. And so in this scenario you are coming to truth from two directions: The content of the thought itself, as well as the fact that you had that thought.
Everyone inherently knows that truth is extremely powerful. But what they don’t know is if truth is for them, against them, or just arbitrary? And so people tend to feel afraid of its power and therefore often control it from being revealed. And so whether truth is for or against us, or is arbitrary, is the real issue. Everything hinges on the answer. Whichever we decide, and whichever the truth of it is, determines the world and reality we are living in.
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Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings
during Janine’s NLP Timeline Session 10-27-09
(Client’s name is changed to protect her privacy)
(Janine is in a career transition. She’s been a nurse for a long time, and is exploring other possibilities. She enjoys doing energy healing with people, but hasn’t tried to earn a living doing it, because she’s had limited success with the results.)
“The heart of the matter is the issue here for anything you’re trying to do, healing, whatever. In order to come into the heart of the matter, it takes faith in reality. It takes faith that what is really true, works, that there is a solution that can be found in what is really true.
What I’m talking about is different than the usual paradigm about faith. It has to do with walking into the unknown and being willing to see/experience what’s there. In a sense it has to do with faith because, it takes courage to walk into the unknown if you don’t already know what’s there. So it’s faith that it will be positive. But then it is looking at what’s actually there. It is walking into the center of experience, and looking at, and listening to and feeling what it is. This is, perhaps, scarier than the traditional idea of faith, where you don’t necessarily find out how things actually are. You just trust they are or will be good. You hope and pray that they will work. It’s not about walking into the unknown and opening your eyes, and seeing what’s there.
In day-to-day life, people put emotional defense systems up so they can avoid present moment reality, because they’re afraid that the truth is somehow against them, as represented by the limiting decisions* they have made. In the group process**, we move through the defense systems, which puts a person smack dab in the middle of their limiting decision*, where they get to find out what the truth is. And of course limiting decisions* are never true, so that’s what shows up.
So the faith involved, in that case, is to let go of the control in order to find out what the truth is. But once you’re facing the truth, you see what’s there. So it is not blind faith. That’s what coming into the heart of the matter is. You find out what’s actually there.
So it’s a further evolutionary step beyond faith. The less evolved concept is to just have blind faith. This new paradigm about faith is more empowered. It is having the faith to look at what’s true, and then you experience what is actually there. Now, if it weren’t true that life is meant to work; if it weren’t true that it is a benign universe; if it weren’t true that the divine is for you, not against you; then, from the human perspective, it might not be a good idea to experience what is actually there. It might be better to stay in blind faith. But since the truth is it is a benign universe, it is limiting decisions* that keep people wanting to be in the lala land of blind faith, and not wanting to step into the heart of the matter, the present moment, and experience what’s actually there.”
(Janine is saying that she believes that the way God originally created His creations was meant to work. And then it got corrupted, because once the creations were created, they were then on their own. So God created a perfect world, and then left it up to nature and humanity, as to what happens next.)
“Getting to the heart of the matter is what the most obvious thing in any situation is, by definition. But it’s extraordinarily difficult to get to in a lot of cases. Something that would be so obvious, for some reason, is extremely difficult to get to. There’s a human block against doing that. And we need to get to the bottom of why you, in particular, don’t do that. You think in terms of theories and explanations of why this and why that.
Mental theories or concepts for understanding how things work are not the same thing as coming into present here-and-now experience, and seeing what’s actually there. Your concept that once a creation of God is created, it’s on its own — is of a creator that is limited. A limitless Creator is in every cell and every vibration and every aspect of all that is. That would be an all inclusive definition of Creator or Divine, which is not how you are conceiving of it.
What I’m trying to get to is what will enable you to know that it’s safe to come into the present moment, into the heart of the matter — rather than believing that when you actually get to the bottommost reality of things, it won’t work, which seems to be where you’re at. When it comes down to it, you believe it just doesn’t work. You believe that people (the creation) are on their own, that it’s like a crap shoot. Therefore you don’t want to see what’s really there, and that keeps you from being grounded in the present moment, which then limits your ability to be an effective healer.”
(The next step for Janine will be to clarify what the limiting decision is that is causing her to avoid the heart of the matter, and do a Timeline Process to clear it.)
* Limiting decisions are negative decisions made unconsciously in early childhood, such as “I am bad, not valuable, stupid…” For a more complete description of limiting decisions, click here.
** “Group Process” refers to the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” transformational group. For more information about the group, click here.
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during a
“Shifting into your New Consciousness” group experience 6-18-09 (Names are changed to protect privacy)
(To Chas) “I’m guessing that you don’t like being engaged.And so you come into an individual TimeLine session, we find out what the limiting decision is, and we clear it. You’re done and you leave. Whereas here in the group, we muck around, and you have to get in the mix.You have to mix it up.And you’re basically in a place of the unknown, where stuff comes up that you didn’t want to have come up, things are seen that you didn’t want to have seen. Issues show up.You’re involved and engaged in a way that is not in your control.It’s very experiential in a way that shifts your reality, in a way that the individual work doesn’t do.It puts you in exactly the kind of situation that you feel uncomfortable in, and there’s a reason you feel that way, which would be very important to figure out what it is.The point for your defense system is to not engage. It is to try to get it over with, whatever it is.Whereas this group is about engaging.
Everything real happens in the present moment.It has to do with being present with who you are in the context of other people.The real stuff tends to come out in the context of other people.Your defense systems are meant to keep you from being in the present moment.And my intention is to get you in the present moment.And that is a lot of what this process has to do with.And you’re getting feedback from a number of different people in the group when you’re avoiding the present moment.Being present and being in the process of coming into the present, is a transformational process.The one-on-one, in the TimeLine sessions is a whole different dynamic.It doesn’t bring up this kind of thing.It’s not as messy.It’s the messiness that brings up anxiety for you.It’s the messiness which is the unknown.The unknown is the present moment.
When a person makes a limiting decision, it’s always some form of ‘Life is not meant to work and there’s something inherently wrong with them.’The reason for people’s defense systems is to avoid coming into the present moment in order to avoid finding out whether the limiting decision is true or not. So you could say that’s coming into the unknown. But underneath that, they’re sure they know what it is, and it’s negative.So they do everything they can to avoid coming into the present moment in order to not find that out.So that’s a description of what you’re doing, and what any defense system does.It’s like you are doing a soft shoe dance around it, distracting around it to avoid coming into the present moment to find out the truth of it.
What happens in the group is we pin you down so you come into the present moment and you find out the truth of it, and it always turns out you’re wrong, and the limiting decision is not true. It’s a dynamic paradigm of reality that is being held in place here. And as each person in the group moves forward, they’re participating on higher and higher levels, at holding it in place. So it’s like a living community, or a living microcosm.And it’s being held in place from all around you, and different people are holding it from their different perspective, and that’s very powerful.Basically what we’re trying to do is help people out of a misconception of what reality is, to being supported in a different frame-of-reference that works better.What you’re probably afraid of is that the group will end up proving that what you are afraid of is true, which relates to the limiting decision.”
(Names are changed to protect participants’ privacy.)
To Aaron:(Aaron had said he intends to choose who he is.)
Anything that you could conceive of would have to be less than who you are, because who you are contains the potential for anything and everything.But you have to get down to present moment reality.You have to be standing where you’re standing before you can get anywhere else.And from where you are standing you can evolve further, and then when you get to that place, you can then evolve further.The present moment holds the potential for anything and everything happening.You are avoiding the present moment. That’s the problem.
To the Group in general:In order to be in the present moment, self-interest is a crucial element.If you’re not connected to what matters to you, personally, and if you’re not following that path of what really matters to you in every moment…It’s crucially important.That’s how you define reality.That’s your piece in the puzzle.So when Janet knew that she would feel resentful if she did this thing that her daughter asked of her, she knew that she would be going against what really mattered to herself.That defined reality in that moment.Now some people might consider that to be selfish.But I say, no, that’s enlightened self-interest, because it’s what really benefits her.
To Renee: That’s what pissed you off so much when that guy in your group didn’t do what he said he would do and explained it away by saying, “Well, I love myself.”He was probably not coming from enlightened self-interest, as he was probably not really in contact with what really matters to him, and was putting up this wall instead.
You have to, in every moment ask, “Does this really serve me?”And you were pissed off because you were ignoring serving yourself, thinking that doing that was serving the greater good of the group.But you cannot possibly serve the greater good if you are not serving yourself.I’m talking about true self-interest.People do a lot of things, such as this fellow that I just referred to, that they think is self-interest.But the human evolutionary process has to do with when what you perceive as self-interest actually benefits you — versus only being a symbol held in place by an unhealed issue, formed because you made a limiting decision that you can’t have what really matters to you.So mostly people do things that they think benefits them, but that doesn’t actually.If it actually benefited you, it would also benefit all concerned.
To the Group in general: It’s like there are two alternative realities.There is the true one, where the actual you, the soul you, lives.And then there is the world built by the alternative self (the ego self), that you built upon every time you made a limiting decision.Every time you made a limiting decision, you were building up an alternative self, living in an alternative world, in which there’s no real satisfaction.In that world you go after things that symbolize what you really want, but are only substitutes for.For example a person who made a limiting decision he has no value, might be obsessed with obtaining things that represent status.But no matter how many things he obtains, he never feels fulfilled.This is because the things don’t really benefit him, as they are only a substitute for the sense of value he seeks, but has the channels closed for.
