Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/23/09
(Participants’ names have been changed to protect their privacy.)

(To Anita) “What it keeps turning out that this group is about, is uncovering the masks and defense systems, in order to get to the real self. And the real self is gold, totally gold. My job seems to be to ferret out that wonderful self that is being hidden behind the defense systems. So this isn’t about tearing you down at all. It’s not something like, ‘Well, how do I fix this horrible defense system that people have this response to.’ That’s not what it’s about. It’s about penetrating through it to get to the real you. Now, if your defense system is pushing people away, then you, like many others, are defending against your real self being seen because of negative limiting decisions you’ve made about your real self. So the process unmasks your real self, and then you get to find out that people really, really like your real self. And that is transformational. That’s what I’m trying to get across to Janet. She thinks this persona of knowing everything is far more acceptable than the very, very vulnerable, emotional person she really is. And she’s totally mistaken about that.

It’s the same thing with Aaron. He thinks coming across as perfect, and an expert at everything, and never getting anything wrong, makes him worthy; and that being touched and moved and eccentric and different and not fitting in, is completely unacceptable.”

Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teaching during the
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/23/09
(Participant’s name has been changed to protect their privacy.)

(Janet said her mind went blank when Jane was talking.)

“That’s what generally happens when I’m revealing the ground a person is standing on, which is the way they form what reality is. I’m causing a reframe right at that point, which feels like I’ve pulled the ground out from under you reality.

You are a totally amazing person. The reason I’m saying these things to you, and really pinpointing it as hard as I do is because I see the distinction between your defense system and who you are. I’m getting to where you really are, the real you, the part of you that you have been masking over with a false persona — not letting people see the real, tender, vulnerable, emotional, true self underneath that.”