Transformational Teachings from Counselor Jane Ilene Cohen

This is a part of the “Ask Jane” Series,
in which Jane answers questions
you email to her that of concern to you.

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.

Question from Fellow Healer in New York

Fellow Healer: A dear friend of mine, who has worked the Law of Attraction (LoA) religiously for years, ended up broke at her mom’s house.  She called me distraught wondering why the universe isn’t bringing her the wealth she meditated on.  What the LoA professors neglect to tell us is that our soul is on a journey and that journey will be fulfilled.  Soul trumps LoA.  My friend now sees that going home offered her valuable healing time with her family and was vital to her path.

Jane: I agree with your conclusion that the soul’s journey trumps everything else.  However, the Law of Attraction does work perfectly, and people are always manifesting, but not necessarily what they consciously desire.  To manifest what you consciously desire, there has to be some combination of alignment between the conscious mind, the unconscious mind, and the higher self (i.e. the soul’s path).  When the conscious mind is in alignment with the unconscious mind, you are likely to manifest what you consciously want.  What causes conscious/unconscious mind misalignment are limiting decisions*.  Limiting decisions cause misalignment with what is really true.  They then cause the person to manifest the distortion that the unconscious mind now believes to be true.  I.e. if the person decides there is not enough, that is what they will manifest.  When the limiting decision* is cleared, the unconscious mind now aligns itself with the truth of abundance.

But the soul’s journey also affects how effective particular people are at manifesting what they desire.  Many people use, or try to use, the Laws of Attraction to manifest things that are not necessarily in their highest best interest (which also is a result of limiting decisions*).  At some point in the soul’s journey, the higher self does not allow that.  So this then requires the soul to evolve to going toward what truly benefits them — what I refer to as “enlightened self-interest” — before they will be effective at manifesting what they desire.

* Limiting decisions are unconscious decisions made in early childhood, and are always some form of deciding life is not meant to work and/or there is something inherently wrong with you.

This is a part of the “Ask Jane” Series,
in which Jane answers questions
you email to her that of concern to you.

(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)

Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.

Question from Jered in Mission Valley

Jered: It occurs to me that the failure of big companies — such as General Motors that received bailouts — are not so much an example of limiting decision, as they are of “broken” organizations.  GM had to break before old methods were discarded for new. It makes me think of change with people.  Clearing decisions are baby steps. But traumatic events have outsized consequences – huge steps.

Jane: This is a complex subject that can’t be explained, so that it’s easily understood, in a few paragraphs.  I will be going into this more fully in my upcoming “Life is Meant to Work” webinar as part of explaining how our experience of reality gets out of alignment with Universal Truths.  But here is a brief explanation that I hope is helpful.

The failure of big companies, such as General Motors, is most likely based on perspectives of self-interest that are out of alignment with reality.  Whenever there are perceptions that are out of alignment with reality, there are limiting decisions* at the root of it.

People with similar limiting decisions* come together and hold in place a collective perspective on reality.  People are very invested in the particular way they perceive what reality is, which represents their source of stability, survival and well-being.  It is the ground they are standing on.  That perception of reality is often greatly distorted by limiting decisions* they have made.  In general people are not willing to give up that ground unless forced to.  That’s why it sometimes takes a major crisis before individuals — and especially a group of people, such as a major organization or company — are willing to restructure their perception of reality.  They have to perceive that it is in their self-interest to make a change.  The process of evolution occurs as what people perceive of as self-interest becomes increasingly more in alignment with what actually benefits them.

The world as we know it is rapidly changing.  The old structures and ways of participating, functioning, surviving, and prospering, that we have relied upon in the past, are rapidly becoming obsolete.  This course will help you make sense of a world that no longer makes sense in the old frames-of-reference.

In this webinar Jane Ilene Cohen, Intuitive & Transformational Counselor, Author, Writer and Visionary unveils a totally positive thought system, developed through the work with her clients over the past 14 years.  This thought system is what has enabled her to facilitate profound life changes, reversing their experience of life not working.  At the center of it is the principle Life is Meant to Work. This thought system explains what causes your life to not work. It profoundly shifts your experience of reality, allowing your life to come into its full expression of abundance and well-being.

You’ll learn:

• How your perceptions of reality get distorted, putting you out of alignment with larger universal truths, causing life to appear to not work.
• How this relates to the individual and global crises we are in the midst of.
• A new thought system that re-orients your experience of reality to be in alignment with life and universal truths, facilitating your awakening into a more conscious, creative, and abundant life of well-being .
• How to become aligned with the evolutionary process, which is pushing humanity into a more evolved perception of reality — so that your personal transition into it will be an easier, more harmonious process.

This webinar is taught in three parts: the free introduction (begins 1/11), the pre-course (begins 1/19), and the main course (begins 2/2).Free Introduction:

Free Introduction:

In the free introduction, Jane will be interviewed by Mo Bailey about the positive new thought system she will be teaching in the Webinar.  You’ll get an overview of what this course is about.

When you sign up for this free introduction, you’ll also receive Jane’s list of “The Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail.”

Monday, Jan. 11th: 5:00-6:00pm PST (8:00 – 9:00 pm EST) – or -

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Pre-Course:

This 2-week class on Tuesdays or Wednesdays is the prerequisite for the 12- week main course.  In it you will learn how your perceptions of reality get distorted, putting you out of alignment with larger universal truths, causing life to appear to not work; and how this relates to the individual and global crises we are in the midst of.

When you register for the Pre-Course you will also receive Jane’s list of “The 10 Most Common Limiting Decisions People Make.”

Fee: $67

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This is the main 12-week course. See the above initial description for a summary of this course. When you sign up you will also receive Jane’s list of the “Top 10 Attributes of an Evolved Leader.”

Fee: $387

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Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/16/09

(Names of participants are changed to protect their privacy.)

How Change Works

(To Anita) “This has to do with how change occurs. What frequently happens is I work really hard to get someone to see what the issue is, and then immediately they want me to tell them what the solution is so they can get rid of it without having acknowledged the truth of it in the first place. But the solution doesn’t necessarily come immediately. The unconscious mind has got to grasp it, and has got to acknowledge it, and really sit in the truth of what it is before the next step gets revealed. And so with you and Aaron, that has been the challenge. Just getting both of you to a place where you really get what we’re talking about is a huge step in itself.”

About Emotional Defense Systems

(The immediate issue with Anita is she won’t allow herself to be seen where she is. She keeps deflecting the focus by appearing to be talking about one thing, but jumps from one thought to another in a way that doesn’t actually get anywhere, so it’s impossible to follow her. Anita said she caught herself doing this jumping around during the week. Jane asked Anita what were the circumstances in which she caught herself doing that. Anita said she doesn’t remember.)

The fact that you don’t remember what it is, I think is part of the defense system. A defense system is different than a limiting decision. It’s the tactic your unconscious mind has developed to protect the limiting decision from becoming conscious.

The defense system we’re currently talking about, that you and Aaron use, is to run others around the block by twisting logic. If people try to follow what you are saying when it gets any where near the defended issue for you, they get crossed-eyed as they’re trying to follow it. People lose track, they can’t figure out what you’re saying. So they figure there must be something wrong with them. But it is actually impossible to follow, because the intention of the defense system is to make it impossible. (Anita said she was sorry.) Oh, it’s totally not something you’re doing on purpose. No one here blames you for it. People’s defense systems are tricky. They are extremely good at defending what they’re trying to defend. And it’s on a very intuitive and unconscious level, like slipping in between the radar. I suggest the next time you get an awareness of doing that, you immediately write it down, and start helping yourself get conscious of what you are doing.”

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(Aaron said he used the wrong words last week when he was describing his experience, when he said people had called him a liar.)

“Here we’re seeing your defense system right as it’s happening. You saying that people called you a liar, was not a mistake. It was a very good thing you said it because it revealed the truth of how you actually responded to what was said. It wasn’t accurate. People didn’t call you a liar. But you revealed that that’s how you experienced it. So we don’t want you to now get a better mask and cover over the fact that that’s how you actually responded by using a more “appropriate” word. We finally got some truth there, that you felt people were calling you a liar. There is a lot of other emotional material underneath that, but the important thing is you revealed an aspect of yourself. The point I wanted to make sure we keep conscious, from what I got last week in relation to you, is about the whole issue of you crying, and whether it was genuine or not. It appears the underlying issue about this has to do with it being important to you to connect with the group (i.e. other people). But since you haven’t really acknowledged that it is true that this is important to you, then everything gets confused from that point on.

(Aaron said he does want to connect with the group, but he doesn’t know how.) What I’m saying to you is not about knowing how to do it. The first step is to truly acknowledge that that’s what you want. And there must be some really strong defense system in there against acknowledging it, causing you to do all of these manipulative things to try to make this connection without admitting it, which ended up in you appearing disingenuous, which then is what people respond to. So admitting connecting with the group is important to you, is where you need to start.”