From the Life is Meant to Work Prepare yourself for a New Reality
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A pivotal question at the bottom of how civilization has organized itself is “Is humanity inherently good, or is it bad, or is it simply weak and corruptible?” The bottom line way we define the answer to that has to do with what we believe people would do if they weren’t controlled. And that has to do with the issue of self-interest. If people are not controlled, or if they don’t control themselves, they will go toward their own self-interest. And so the issue then becomes how we perceive what self-interest is.
The idea that self-interest is bad, is based on the idea of original sin. In other words it is based on the idea that if people pursue what they desire, what really matters to them, including human desires, they will break Divine laws and will cause harm to others. But the problem here is not inherent in the nature of self-interest, but in how we conceive of what self-interest is.
When many religious perspectives or spiritual philosophies define human self-interest, they are actually defining human emotional defense systems, which get built up as a result of having made limiting decisions. And when they are advocating letting go of desires, this is also the framework they are referring to. People’s emotional defense systems result in them going toward substitutes for what they desire rather than the real thing. And these substitutes are generally harmful to oneself and others.
But humanity doesn’t live solely in their emotional defense systems, and we are in an evolutionary process through them. Desiring these symbolic substitutes is not the nature of humanity or human desire. People going toward these kinds of desires (that can often be addictive, and that we associate with shallowness, perversion or lacking in self-discipline) does not have to do with the inherent corruptibility or weakness of human beings, or the nature of human desires. Self-interest is inherent in any living creature. It’s not the self-interest that is the problem, it is the substitutes for it that are the problem. And the substitutes are created because of the denial of the real thing. The way to enlightenment is not a denial of our self-interest, or of our human experience, it is the recognition and embracing of the truth of what it is. It is coming into experience, not avoiding it — which means the difference between realizing that the nature of reality is positive, that if we come into what is true, it leads us to the highest good of all concerned.
On the one hand most of humanity doesn’t have any concept of the depth of the distortion of our perception of reality, and how much we are living and forming our perception of reality from an upside-down and insane perspective. But on the other hand, there is little concept of the inherent goodness of the human soul, that what the truth is about who we inherently are is total goodness, not in spite of our self-interest, but because of it. This is because what we really desire leads us to love, truth, connection, meaning, everything true and real. What it is human beings truly desire is a part of the truth of the universe. It is beyond any false persona or egoic self. It is what can bring us out of the perception of the limited physical world we were born into, in which we forgot who we are beyond the physical experience.
Selected from the “Life is Meant to Work” Webinar,
and emailed-in questions people sent.
To listen to this webinar introduction, click here.
(People’s names are changed to protect their privacy.)
Sally: Jane, excellent synthesis and conclusions of this complex topic. Will each session be one hour?
Jane: Yes, each class in the 12-week Course will be an hour.
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Randy: Are you going to be teaching A Course in Miracles in this course?
Jane: No. I absorbed what was meaningful to me to absorb from A Course in Miracles. I studied it very intensely and it brought me to new ground in which I was seeing things from a different perspective. And from standing on that perspective, I tapped into a whole other thought system from my own direct experience.
I got the idea from A Course in Miracles that life is meant to work. And when I started seeing clients I started holding that in place. I didn’t really know that it was true. But I was holding it in place, and I was insistent on holding that in place. I think I was born to do that, as I can’t figure out any other reason why I have held onto it with such strong intention. So whatever happened, I interpreted it from the frame-or-reference that life is meant to work. And as a result, I started tapping into a whole body of work, which has kept unfolding and has made the work I do very effective. Because TimeLine is such a fast process, I could almost immediately see the result of holding “life is meant to work” in place. So it has been like a living laboratory over these past 14 years, seeing the results of standing on that premise, and finding that it is true over and over again. We clear the limiting decision, and the person’s life reconfigures itself and proves that it has nothing to do with the way life works, or the external circumstance.
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Jean: It sounds like by the time a person is 50 they might have made hundreds or thousands of limiting decisions. So how long do you think it might take someone, an average person whose life isn’t working, to release enough limiting decisions so their life could work?
Jane: First of all you don’t keep making limiting decisions until you’re 50 years old. Limiting decisions are made before the age of 6 or 7, sometimes in adolescence. It’s rare that you make any limiting decisions beyond that age.
The number of limiting decisions and the length of time it takes to clear them depends on the soul’s path. Some people have a lot of stuff going on — by which I mean a lot of limiting decisions that surface — and they just have to deal with them. They’re set up to make a lot of progress in this lifetime. Other people seem to have an easier path, with less limiting decisions to deal with. And it seems to vary from lifetime to lifetime. It depends on a combination of your soul’s particular path, and how much progress it decides to make in this lifetime. It also has to do with the evolutionary process of your particular soul and of humanity in general. At a certain point a more evolved level of functioning is expected of you in order for your life to work well.
In general when a person works with me, they work for a while and arrive at a place that works for them, at the particular stage in life they are at. I had one woman who cleared the issues she needed to clear in relation to her husband, and their relationship now works wonderfully well, and she was finished. And I haven’t heard from her since. For some people, we clear the issues that were currently of concern to them, and I don’t hear from them for a year or two. And then they come back to clear more, according to what’s up for them in their current life experience.
But that’s about the TimeLine sessions, and that’s different from what I’m doing in the “Life is Meant to Work” program, which has to do with the larger perspective, it shifts how you are experiencing life, and your perspective on what reality is. It’s working with getting you in alignment with the evolutionary process.
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Anita: If life is meant to work, what about catastrophes such as what happened in Haiti, the death and destruction wasn’t the result of their limiting decisions. It might be the result of limiting decisions of those that are causing global climate change. We’re making decisions and other people are making decisions. So possibly what happened is other people’s limiting decisions can have a limiting effect on us. Some people’s decisions can change the world. They affect everybody. To take an attitude that everything one endures is as a result of one’s limiting belief is to imply that we are islands unto ourselves and are unaffected by what takes place around us.
A baby born with an arm protruding out of its back because of the depleted uranium dumped in Iraq by the Americans, has not created its own reality. A 7 point earthquake that kills and harms huge numbers of people is not created by the limiting beliefs of those people. The fact that the over-population, pathetic housing conditions, poverty and ignorance of the people is a condition of American foreign policy conditions … (Anita wrote a very long question, too long to include here, so this is just a small excerpt.)
Jane: You’ve asked a lot of good questions. This is a large subject and central to the teachings in this 12-week course and can’t be comprehensively explained in this brief Q & A format. So I’ll just answer some pieces of it.
Your limiting decisions only have to do with you. And other people’s limiting decisions only have to do with them. You are never controlled by someone outside of yourself. When you clear the limiting decision, you find that your life shifts, no matter what it is that others are doing.
The alternative perspective to this is a judgmental good-versus-evil perspective, which is one of the causes of the problem — not a solution. This is the perspective that causes people to be in fear, feel they have to control each other, to believe that what they really want will be damaging to others, and all kinds of misconceptions that leads to people attacking each other in the name of defending themselves. It causes people to be afraid of being who they really are, in their full power.
I know this can be hard to grasp. That’s why it’s a 12-week course, because you have to really get into the specifics of how experience is formed in order to untangle this whole thing.
Even on a very direct, relatively benign personal level, limiting decisions appear to make life impossible, and so without really understanding how that works, it’s hard to understand it for more extreme and global situations. The examples I gave in my introduction, about clients’ whose lives turned around from appearing to be impossible to being possible, give some insight into that.
The amazing thing to me is that, whatever the situation is, when you clear the limiting decisions that are at the root of the painful emotions that come up in the situation — when you clear them, your experience of reality does shift.
Yes, we are all affected by each other, but whether our response is an emotionally triggered one or not, is the issue. A trigger means that your experience of reality is distorted because of limiting decisions in that area of life. You can tell whether it’s a trigger or not according to whether your response is empowered and resourceful or not.
What your mind does with each piece of experience, the way it interprets the meaning of it determines whether you go toward solutions or in the opposite direction, regardless of what is happening in your external environment.
It’s probably not possible to understand events and circumstances such as the current disaster in Haiti, or a child being born deformed, outside of the perspective of a soul’s journey. Facilitating, and therefore experiencing, the TimeLine process (a hypnotic NLP process) with many people who have gone back into past lifetimes has given me a valuable perspective on the human process in relation to these kinds of events.
I’ll give you a typical kind of example, of which I have had many similar ones. Let’s say the limiting decision we’re working on is that the person is defective. And in the person’s present here-and-now life, he has a learning disability, which has been limiting his possibilities in life.
In order to clear a limiting decision it’s necessary to go back to the very first event in which it was made. So let’s say we are brought back to a past lifetime, to an event that even I can’t reframe into life is meant to work, because it appears completely impossible — such as being born without legs, and the only means of survival is to do work that requires walking. I have learned that when that kind of thing occurs, it’s not the very first event in which the limiting decision was made. And when we do get to the originating event, you can see where the person’s interpretation was flawed or limited in scope. So, with the cooperation of his unconscious mind, we go back to an earlier lifetime, when he was a 2 year old child, and his parent expected him to be able to do a chore way beyond his development, and when he couldn’t, was abusive to him. So we can see here the problem is the child believing the parent represented reality, not the actual circumstance. And that can easily be reframed with help from me and their present-moment adult perspective.
The reason the person continued that limiting decision into following lifetimes — sometimes even escalating it, such as being born without legs — is because after the limiting decision is made in the originating event, the unconscious mind is invested in proving that it is true, and structures the person’s life experiences in order to prove it. This affects what happens in following lifetimes.
However, when this limiting decision gets cleared, the person’s unconscious mind reconfigures itself and solutions to their present moment life dilemmas become apparent. I’ve seen it happen over and over again.
Now the person going through these different experiences — sometimes extremely painful experiences — is a part of that person’s soul path. But the evolutionary process is to move into increasingly greater alignment with universal truths and with life, in order to move each person toward empowerment, happiness and well-being — toward a state of enlightenment. It’s a process based on love. A major purpose of the 12-week course is to facilitate people moving into this greater alignment.
So this is just a brief response, with much left unexplained, to a deep, complex subject that the “Life is Meant to Work” course is set up to address in depth.
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This is a part of the “Ask Jane” Series,
in which Jane answers questions
you email to her that of concern to you.
(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)
Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.
Question from Fellow Healer in New York
Fellow Healer: A dear friend of mine, who has worked the Law of Attraction (LoA) religiously for years, ended up broke at her mom’s house. She called me distraught wondering why the universe isn’t bringing her the wealth she meditated on. What the LoA professors neglect to tell us is that our soul is on a journey and that journey will be fulfilled. Soul trumps LoA. My friend now sees that going home offered her valuable healing time with her family and was vital to her path.
Jane: I agree with your conclusion that the soul’s journey trumps everything else. However, the Law of Attraction does work perfectly, and people are always manifesting, but not necessarily what they consciously desire. To manifest what you consciously desire, there has to be some combination of alignment between the conscious mind, the unconscious mind, and the higher self (i.e. the soul’s path). When the conscious mind is in alignment with the unconscious mind, you are likely to manifest what you consciously want. What causes conscious/unconscious mind misalignment are limiting decisions*. Limiting decisions cause misalignment with what is really true. They then cause the person to manifest the distortion that the unconscious mind now believes to be true. I.e. if the person decides there is not enough, that is what they will manifest. When the limiting decision* is cleared, the unconscious mind now aligns itself with the truth of abundance.
But the soul’s journey also affects how effective particular people are at manifesting what they desire. Many people use, or try to use, the Laws of Attraction to manifest things that are not necessarily in their highest best interest (which also is a result of limiting decisions*). At some point in the soul’s journey, the higher self does not allow that. So this then requires the soul to evolve to going toward what truly benefits them — what I refer to as “enlightened self-interest” — before they will be effective at manifesting what they desire.
* Limiting decisions are unconscious decisions made in early childhood, and are always some form of deciding life is not meant to work and/or there is something inherently wrong with you.
This is a part of the “Ask Jane” Series,
in which Jane answers questions
you email to her that of concern to you.
(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)
Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.
Question from Jered in Mission Valley
Jered: It occurs to me that the failure of big companies — such as General Motors that received bailouts — are not so much an example of limiting decision, as they are of “broken” organizations. GM had to break before old methods were discarded for new. It makes me think of change with people. Clearing decisions are baby steps. But traumatic events have outsized consequences – huge steps.
Jane: This is a complex subject that can’t be explained, so that it’s easily understood, in a few paragraphs. I will be going into this more fully in my upcoming “Life is Meant to Work” webinar as part of explaining how our experience of reality gets out of alignment with Universal Truths. But here is a brief explanation that I hope is helpful.
The failure of big companies, such as General Motors, is most likely based on perspectives of self-interest that are out of alignment with reality. Whenever there are perceptions that are out of alignment with reality, there are limiting decisions* at the root of it.
People with similar limiting decisions* come together and hold in place a collective perspective on reality. People are very invested in the particular way they perceive what reality is, which represents their source of stability, survival and well-being. It is the ground they are standing on. That perception of reality is often greatly distorted by limiting decisions* they have made. In general people are not willing to give up that ground unless forced to. That’s why it sometimes takes a major crisis before individuals — and especially a group of people, such as a major organization or company — are willing to restructure their perception of reality. They have to perceive that it is in their self-interest to make a change. The process of evolution occurs as what people perceive of as self-interest becomes increasingly more in alignment with what actually benefits them.
The world as we know it is rapidly changing. The old structures and ways of participating, functioning, surviving, and prospering, that we have relied upon in the past, are rapidly becoming obsolete. This course will help you make sense of a world that no longer makes sense in the old frames-of-reference.
In this webinar Jane Ilene Cohen, Intuitive & Transformational Counselor, Author, Writer and Visionary unveils a totally positive thought system, developed through the work with her clients over the past 14 years. This thought system is what has enabled her to facilitate profound life changes, reversing their experience of life not working. At the center of it is the principle Life is Meant to Work. This thought system explains what causes your life to not work. It profoundly shifts your experience of reality, allowing your life to come into its full expression of abundance and well-being.
You’ll learn:
How your perceptions of reality get distorted, putting you out of alignment with larger universal truths, causing life to appear to not work.
How this relates to the individual and global crises we are in the midst of.
A new thought system that re-orients your experience of reality to be in alignment with life and universal truths, facilitating your awakening into a more conscious, creative, and abundant life of well-being .
How to become aligned with the evolutionary process, which is pushing humanity into a more evolved perception of reality — so that your personal transition into it will be an easier, more harmonious process.
This webinar is taught in three parts: the free introduction (begins 1/11), the pre-course (begins 1/19), and the main course (begins 2/2).Free Introduction:
Free Introduction:
In the free introduction, Jane will be interviewed by Mo Bailey about the positive new thought system she will be teaching in the Webinar. You’ll get an overview of what this course is about.
When you sign up for this free introduction, you’ll also receive Jane’s list of “The Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail.”
This 2-week class on Tuesdays or Wednesdays is the prerequisite for the 12- week main course. In it you will learn how your perceptions of reality get distorted, putting you out of alignment with larger universal truths, causing life to appear to not work; and how this relates to the individual and global crises we are in the midst of.
When you register for the Pre-Course you will also receive Jane’s list of “The 10 Most Common Limiting Decisions People Make.”
This is the main 12-week course. See the above initial description for a summary of this course. When you sign up you will also receive Jane’s list of the “Top 10 Attributes of an Evolved Leader.”
The Pre-course is the prerequisite for taking this course. If you miss it, you can sign up for the audio recording, which will be available by Jan. 28th. If you miss the free introduction, the audio will be available by Jan. 14th.
This is a part of the “Ask Jane” Series,
in which Jane answers questions
you email to her that of concern to you.
(Names are changed to protect your privacy.)
Just go to the “Contact Jane” page
and ask your question in the contact form.
(This was from Fellow Healer in New York who made this comment in the context of his description of an ex-girlfriend’s treatment of him, and also the way he observes people, including new age-type people, acting toward others.)
Fellow Healer: “… ACIM says the only sane response to our brother, even when they act out, is to love him. No holy book says lecture, scold, and runaway. No heart would say that either…. True self needs love too. It’s all one. When we love all in the trinity, then all flows. Now is the time to return to love. Love. Just love. Love is the secret!!!”
Jane: Yes, of course, the answer always comes down to love. It’s certainly an important place to focus our attention, and it would be great if everyone could just decide on love and be there. But getting to love is an evolutionary process (both on a personal, individual level, as well as on a human evolutionary level). The path to love isn’t always obvious or straightforward. Many things people think they do out of love are not really about love.
For instance, in your earlier email about you being “loyal” to the first girlfriend, therefore staying with that relationship (even though you knew it wasn’t right for you), and saying “no” to the second girlfriend (who you really wanted to be with) — it appears you felt you were doing this out of love or kindness to the first girlfriend. But since it was not in truth, it was not in Divine order. And it was not following enlightened self-interest. And enlightened self-interest is an extremely necessary ingredient in order to be moving toward love. (But that’s another whole subject altogether.) So it’s not necessarily that obvious or straightforward. There are a lot of elements potentially involved.
The way to solve human hurt is to move toward clarity about what is really happening in reality. Therefore there’s no getting around the fact that in order to eliminate your emotional pain, your personal transformation is required. There is no short cut that will have a lasting result.
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings
during Janine’s NLP Timeline Session 10-27-09
(Client’s name is changed to protect her privacy)
(Janine is in a career transition. She’s been a nurse for a long time, and is exploring other possibilities. She enjoys doing energy healing with people, but hasn’t tried to earn a living doing it, because she’s had limited success with the results.)
“The heart of the matter is the issue here for anything you’re trying to do, healing, whatever. In order to come into the heart of the matter, it takes faith in reality. It takes faith that what is really true, works, that there is a solution that can be found in what is really true.
What I’m talking about is different than the usual paradigm about faith. It has to do with walking into the unknown and being willing to see/experience what’s there. In a sense it has to do with faith because, it takes courage to walk into the unknown if you don’t already know what’s there. So it’s faith that it will be positive. But then it is looking at what’s actually there. It is walking into the center of experience, and looking at, and listening to and feeling what it is. This is, perhaps, scarier than the traditional idea of faith, where you don’t necessarily find out how things actually are. You just trust they are or will be good. You hope and pray that they will work. It’s not about walking into the unknown and opening your eyes, and seeing what’s there.
In day-to-day life, people put emotional defense systems up so they can avoid present moment reality, because they’re afraid that the truth is somehow against them, as represented by the limiting decisions* they have made. In the group process**, we move through the defense systems, which puts a person smack dab in the middle of their limiting decision*, where they get to find out what the truth is. And of course limiting decisions* are never true, so that’s what shows up.
So the faith involved, in that case, is to let go of the control in order to find out what the truth is. But once you’re facing the truth, you see what’s there. So it is not blind faith. That’s what coming into the heart of the matter is. You find out what’s actually there.
So it’s a further evolutionary step beyond faith. The less evolved concept is to just have blind faith. This new paradigm about faith is more empowered. It is having the faith to look at what’s true, and then you experience what is actually there. Now, if it weren’t true that life is meant to work; if it weren’t true that it is a benign universe; if it weren’t true that the divine is for you, not against you; then, from the human perspective, it might not be a good idea to experience what is actually there. It might be better to stay in blind faith. But since the truth is it is a benign universe, it is limiting decisions* that keep people wanting to be in the lala land of blind faith, and not wanting to step into the heart of the matter, the present moment, and experience what’s actually there.”
(Janine is saying that she believes that the way God originally created His creations was meant to work. And then it got corrupted, because once the creations were created, they were then on their own. So God created a perfect world, and then left it up to nature and humanity, as to what happens next.)
“Getting to the heart of the matter is what the most obvious thing in any situation is, by definition. But it’s extraordinarily difficult to get to in a lot of cases. Something that would be so obvious, for some reason, is extremely difficult to get to. There’s a human block against doing that. And we need to get to the bottom of why you, in particular, don’t do that. You think in terms of theories and explanations of why this and why that.
Mental theories or concepts for understanding how things work are not the same thing as coming into present here-and-now experience, and seeing what’s actually there. Your concept that once a creation of God is created, it’s on its own — is of a creator that is limited. A limitless Creator is in every cell and every vibration and every aspect of all that is. That would be an all inclusive definition of Creator or Divine, which is not how you are conceiving of it.
What I’m trying to get to is what will enable you to know that it’s safe to come into the present moment, into the heart of the matter — rather than believing that when you actually get to the bottommost reality of things, it won’t work, which seems to be where you’re at. When it comes down to it, you believe it just doesn’t work. You believe that people (the creation) are on their own, that it’s like a crap shoot. Therefore you don’t want to see what’s really there, and that keeps you from being grounded in the present moment, which then limits your ability to be an effective healer.”
(The next step for Janine will be to clarify what the limiting decision is that is causing her to avoid the heart of the matter, and do a Timeline Process to clear it.)
* Limiting decisions are negative decisions made unconsciously in early childhood, such as “I am bad, not valuable, stupid…” For a more complete description of limiting decisions, click here.
** “Group Process” refers to the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” transformational group. For more information about the group, click here.
(Participant’s name is changed to protect her privacy.)
(During a discussion Melanie was saying she never learned how to respond with her vulnerable emotions.)
(To Melanie) “If you were not blocking being affected by someone’s vulnerable emotions, and having your own vulnerable emotions respond, you would naturally respond with your emotions. It’s not something you have to learn how to do. You are actively, on an unconscious level, blocking it. If you weren’t blocking it, it would happen.
I’m not saying you’re bad or wrong. I’m helping you get a sense of something that could cause an amazing transformation, that would allow you to have intimate, emotional relationships with men and women. I gather that relationships with people is very important to you. And so this is a process for you to get so you can actually do that. So rather than seeing this as you’re bad or you’re wrong, it is that you revealed where you are at, and I’m working with you to push you beyond that, so we can get you to the other side. You are too identified with your defense system as your value. And that is leaving behind your real value. I’m moving past your defense systems to the gold that is you, underneath the defense systems. That’s what I’m after. I’m not after making you feel bad or wrong. I’m after the real you that’s hiding behind the defense system. The problem is the defense systems keep you from evolving as a soul. And so as your desire to evolve as a soul gets stronger and stronger, the defense system gets more and more in the way, and so it gives you more and more impetus to get through the defense system. And getting through the defense system can feel like jumping off a cliff.
And on top of that there’s a large evolutionary force at play, other than each of our individual lives. This world is shifting, with the whole economic turmoil and whatever else may be raining down. People cannot remain comfortable in their defense systems any more. It’s time for major, major change. So if it’s not going to come internally, it’s going to come externally, because things have to shift and change, and so that’s part of what’s happening. People’s defense systems, even the really effective ones, are not going to continue to work. That’s a big shock for a lot of people. And a lot of people who have gotten away with feeling very normal as they are following all of the different rules — having their stocks in the stock market, and all of the different things you’re supposed to do to do well in the world. For a safe citizen following all of the rules, it’s a huge shock when those institutions are falling apart, because they’re having to make changes. And you could say people who have been struggling all of this time are not having as much difficulty as people who haven’t been, and now have to start changing.”
(Client’s name is changed to protect her privacy.)
(The limiting decision* Lita is clearing is “Men have all of the power.” The first event in which she made this decision was in a past lifetime, in which men having all of the power was assumed by everyone in that culture at that time. Lita was saying that at that time when she made the limiting decision*, that’s just how it was.)
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings “When the general experience in a particular social environment holds in place the same dysfunctional idea, that means that virtually every person at that time had that as a limiting decision*. The men and the women had the limiting decision* that men have all of the power. So everyone was holding that paradigm in place. That gave you the impression that that’s how it is. But that doesn’t make it true. It just means, in that limited human perspective, that’s what was being held in place.
So the first stage is everyone accepts it. They don’t consider there is any problem. That’s just the way it is. The next stage is someone like you who is more advanced, is saying, ‘Hey, I don’t like this.’ And you start getting an inkling that there is something wrong with things being that way. That is the first step toward shifting it. Even getting a sense that there is another possibility is a miracle, because it’s an evolutionary leap. And then the next stage is to actually clear the limiting decision*, which requires you to really get that the physical form of power, that men’s power superiority was based on, is not the only form of power there is. It’s the most primitive. It’s not true that those with the most physical power are the most powerful, because if it were true, the big woolly mammoth would be in control. Therefore it becomes obvious that intelligence is far more powerful than brute physical strength. There is emotional strength, intellectual strength and spiritual strength, which also relates to the power to heal, which is extraordinarily powerful. So spiritual power is the most powerful of all, which is the reason why the whole idea of witch burning came up. That’s the fear of emotional-spiritual power. If it wasn’t so powerful, they wouldn’t be burning women for having it. So clearly there are much more powerful forms of power than brute physical force. And the only reason people don’t realize it is because of the limiting decision. And now at this time in history, both men and women are beginning to recognize that holding in place the old paradigm is not beneficial to either women or men. It’s extremely hard on men.”
(Lita was saying if she were a man she’d feel so ashamed of what men have created through the ages.)
“Men having controlled a large aspect of life in the past is fully as much women’s responsibility as men’s, because men and women have both held in place that paradigm. In that past life time, you were holding in place that men have all of the power, which means that you were just as responsible for them having all of the power, and therefore for things being out of balance.”
* For a definition of limiting decisions, click here.
(Participants’ names are changed to protect their privacy.)
(To Paul) “If you were to say things full out the way you really see them, the way you really feel them, and be where you really are — the way you have it formed in your mind is it’s going to be impossible. Things can’t work with Kira, or you’re not going to be able to make things work at work or with your sisters. There is some way that you don’t come down where you really are at. You only reveal a little bit of it. You say things in a minimal way, rather than full out the way you really are experiencing it. So there’s some way that you don’t really believe that life is meant to work, that truth will end up with things working well. And this is the major thing for all of us, for humanity. We think that it’s our manipulations and our fudgings and our organizing things this way and that way, from our limited perspective, that is somehow making life work. And probably children — and that’s where it begins — the child thinks that the little thing he or she is doing, they think it’s keeping a catastrophe from happening, or a parent from leaving, or whatever association they give it. And that’s what people are doing all of the time. People are generally always manipulating their circumstance to one degree or another, because they don’t believe that things being really the way they are, and being in truth and following what’s truly important and real for you, will end up with things working. People don’t generally believe that.”
(Laura asked how people can stop manipulating things.)
“We’re talking about a major paradigm shift for humanity. There’s a whole frame-of-reference that’s being held in place by everyone. So it’s a process. It’s not something you can just do. It’s a process of being able to come into truth more and more as you clear limiting decisions*.”
(To Paul) “You’ve been afraid to advance yourself as fast as you could because you’re afraid of leaving Kira behind. And so that is a form of the manipulation that I’ve been describing. And underneath that is a lack of realizing that there is a larger intelligence, with a larger perspective beyond the limited perspective that each of us can see of the picture. We’re only seeing a very small view of what’s really happening in the larger frame-of-reference. And from the perspective that life is meant to work, the best you can do is to follow truth, on as deep a level as you can in order to allow what is really meant to happen, to happen. So within the frame-of-reference that you’re looking at it, there really isn’t a solution, or it doesn’t look very hopeful. But there’s a larger frame-of-reference beyond that. And so you have got to get yourself out of this very narrow perspective on things, and start participating in a larger frame-of-reference. Your path and Kira’s path are beyond just the relationship between the two of you. She’s on her life’s path, and you don’t really know exactly what that path is. And you’re on your life’s path, and you don’t know exactly what that is. And you’re trying to manipulate it to work a certain way. And that’s not really going to help. And it hasn’t been helping. It hasn’t been moving things forward. So you need to be on your path, following your path. That’s the only way anything can work.
There is some way that you are not allowing yourself to be in your territory and her to be in her territory. You will have an affect on other people from within your territory, if you reveal where you are at. And that is a much more Divinely guided place to be in because it’s truth. It’s where you’re really at, rather than trying to manipulate her to get her to be in a different place. Trying to have an affect by keeping yourself hidden, and managing the other person, whether at work or with Kira, is not in alignment with Divine order. Instead you reveal where you are at — what works, what doesn’t work for you, what you want, how you respond. You can only connect with Divine order if you’re in truth.”
