It’s Not about your Ex-Boyfriend Being Rude
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings
during Lita’s NLP Timeline Session 9-24-09
(Client’s name is changed to protect her privacy.)
“You’re talking as though your triggered response is a reality response. That’s what people do. But I want to give you some clarity about that. It’s not about your ex-boyfriend being self-centered. It’s not about some outrageous thing occurring. It’s not about you standing up for your rights. It’s probably more about that you give and give and give for a particular purpose to get a certain thing back. And you think it’s going to work. And when it doesn’t work, you’re pissed. So you’re really pissed, not because he’s a horrible person. You’re pissed because there is something you do that is not in your best interest. You do it for a particular result you think you’re going to get back. And you’re pissed because you didn’t get it back. But you shouldn’t have been doing it in the first place. You did it for the wrong reason. And that’s the reason you’re pissed, not because he’s being rude. So let him be rude. It doesn’t matter, if it’s not triggering you. But it is triggering you. So that’s valuable information for you.
If you’re doing something that is not within your own enlightened self-interest, which is what you were doing, then you are out of Divine flow, because you’re not living from truth. You’re living from the control of the alternative self, which gets formed when you make limiting decisions*. That by definition, puts you out of Divine Order, or Divine truth. Then things keep on compounding and going along a path that has nothing to do with truth.
This is just the way the human psyche works. People are manipulating each other all of the time on subtle levels. It’s not on a level that people usually notice or see. So wherever there’s a limiting decision*, there’s a defense system defending the person against feeling the pain of the limiting decision*. This means there are certain kinds of behaviors people do to keep others away from the limiting decision*, which by definition is controlling other people. And people are doing it all over the place.”
* For an explanation of limiting decisions, click here.
