The Unconscious Manipulation Happening between People
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teaching during Lucy’s NLP TimeLine Session 9-10-09
(Client’s name is change to protect her privacy.)
“Limiting decisions are very painful to live with, so people develop emotional defense systems to cushion themselves from them and compensate for them, in order to function in life. So if you have a limiting decision that men don’t want you, then you are probably doing things to get them to want you to counteract that, to avoid what you’re afraid is true. It may be on very, very subtle levels. You probably don’t even know you’re doing it. Basically, defense systems are a manipulation. People are manipulating each other practically all of the time, often in very subtle, unconscious ways. It’s a frequent thing that occurs between people. There’s a whole dance that’s happening on an unconscious level. So you’re doing things you’re not aware of, and other people are doing things they’re not aware of, in order to cushion themselves and each other from the pain of the limiting decisions. And then you and they have no idea what you and they did. But there’s no need to untangle that as really all we need to do is clear the limiting decision.”
