Needing Other People is Not Weak
From Melanie’s NLP TimeLine Therapy Session 9-7-09
(Client’s name is changed to protect her privacy.)
Melanie was feeling very anxious because she was going to have surgery the next day, and she just found out that she won’t be able to do anything for herself afterwards and will need help from people.
The limiting decision Melanie cleared with the TimeLine Process: “Needing other people is weak.”
The first event in which she made that decision: 13 generations ago. She was a 6 year old boy and was raped by his father. The father used him for his own needs. So the boy decided that people’s needs make them weak and cause them to do horrible things.
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings during the TimeLine Process: “Your father in this past generation wasn’t functioning from his real needs. He must have had significant limiting decisions in the area of needs, so that he didn’t have the channels open to receiving them in the natural course of his life. What he was trying to get from you was not actually getting his needs met, but a dysfunctional substitute. What people do when they can’t get their needs met is they find some symbolic substitute that they feel they can control, which in this case had to do with dominating another person and grabbing what he needed. But it’s not possible to grab what you actually need. His real needs would have been more like the need for love or acceptance. And those can’t be grabbed or taken from someone else. There’s no way to impinge on or harm another person and get your real needs met, because what you need is something that can only be freely given, and would automatically happen if you have the channels open to receive them.
When you deny your real needs, that’s when things start getting distorted. And that’s when doing things that are outside of divine order start occurring. Denying what’s true and real is the problem because then it gets stuffed down into the unconscious mind where it becomes irrational and out of control, just the way your father was. So having needs is not the problem; denying them is the problem.”
