Each Person Has a Part to Play
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings
during the “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group 7-23-09
(Participants’ names are changed to protect their privacy.)
(Rita told the group she hadn’t been there last week because she had a class she went to on sex. Melanie said something about thinking Rita went to this class because she wanted to immediately get into another relationship with a man, and that that was more important to her than coming to the group.)
(To Melanie) “You’re assuming what this class is and the meaning of it for Rita, and then having made the assumption, and without asking her about what it was, you scold her. You’re so sure that your assumption is accurate, that you don’t stand in the question. This group is about standing in the question. You reveal your response, and then you find out what’s actually there. You walk into the unknown to a place where you don’t already know the answer, which is extremely important for transformation.
Not allowing yourself to stand in the question and stand in a place where you don’t know — that seems to be one of your largest defense systems. It is filling in the space, not leaving it open to find out what’s actually there, because in your original family it was very dangerous to allow your mother to take over the situation, because she’d be violent. So you were filling in the space all of the time to distract her, to make it safe for yourself. And you’re doing it less now, but that’s still one of your major defense system. It’s ‘don’t ask a question, don’t stand in the question, don’t leave any space for whatever is really true in the situation.’
Your perspective, as well as Rita’s perspective are both important pieces of the puzzle. It’s not a matter of one person being right and the other person being wrong. The piece that you added that was very important, was how important this group is to you, and how important it is to you that everyone else is committed to putting 100% in. Now that adds to the picture. And it does not conflict with Rita’s perspective and where Rita was coming from that was important for her. It’s just that there are different pieces of the puzzle that different people bring into the picture, and they’re all important, and they’re all legitimate.
When we get these different inputs from different people looking at the situation different ways, it’s like different facets to a picture. And you put it together and you have a much richer idea, sense of truth. And it doesn’t exclude anybody. And it’s not one person is right and one person is wrong. It adds another color. It adds another dimension in which not only is there room for everyone, but everyone has an important part to play or important piece of the puzzle.”
(Melanie responded to a group interaction about her response to Rita as if she’s being criticized.)
“This is an example of an inner world that you carry with you and you interpret input that you get from within that world. So what people were noticing about you is that you were scolding Rita. And so now you think that if anyone has any response to you, they’re scolding you. You were taking what people said as a criticism of you because that’s the world you live in, a world in which people criticize each other, rather than including people as a part of the picture. The way I’m looking at it is it’s all positive.”
