Getting Back to your Center
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings
during a “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group 7-2-09
(Participants’ names are changed to protect their privacy.)
(Nancy and Melanie had just had an interaction in which both of them were triggered.)
(To Nancy and Melanie) “Right now you think the other person has all of this power over you, so you’ve got to get them to agree with you. You and Nancy are trying to control each other. It’s an interlocking dynamic between the two of you. Each of you are struggling to be in control of defining reality, as if you need the other person to agree with your reality, and they need you to agree with theirs. And you’re having a struggle, a fight over who gets to do it. Whereas if you’re connected to your own reality experience, and you know where you are, you don’t need the other person to agree with you. You just are where you are, you say where you are, and then you move on.
By trying to sort this out by getting the other person to see your position or point-of-view, or sorting it out by making it OK with the other person, you’re never, going to come to any place of resolution. You’re always going to be scrambling. What you need to do is go inside yourself and access where you are, what’s important to you, how you feel, how you respond, and communicate that. It has nothing to do with the other person. Both of you are off your base, because you’re trying to get the external world to support where you are. You’re trying to get your base from outside yourself. And since the two of you are highly triggered, you’re hardly going to get some stability from the other person. But both of you are trying to get it from each other. You are just further triggering each other because you’re not going back to your own connection with reality, your own sense of where you are, just within yourself. What’s going on has nothing to do each other. So pull back to where you are.”
