Dysfunctional Relationships
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings
during a “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” Group 7-9-09
(Participants’ names are change to protect their privacy.)
(Fiona was saying she keeps trying to get her husband to change, even though it’s clear he’s not going to.)
“The relationship with the primary person in your life as a child, represents how you conceive of intimacy with significant others now. After you make a limiting decisions in relation to that original person, it’s like you start having blinders on, so that you think there are very limited possibilities for possible people to have intimate relationships with, because of the limiting decision. This would cause you to filter out every one, out in the world, that doesn’t fit that description, and filter in everyone who does. And because it’s dysfunctional, and it doesn’t work, then you try to make that person change, as if they’re the only possibility. Anybody that would actually be possible to have a healthy relationship with, is not in your radar at all, because of the limiting decision. So you keep on trying to save your marriage as if this kind of person is the only possibility.”
