About Holding a Painful Structure in Place
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings
during a “Shifting into Your New Consciousness” Group 7-9-09
(Participants’ names are change to protect their privacy.)
(Melanie was describing an event that happened at a party, in which a friend of hers made a hurtful comment to her. Nancy commented that there were other ways to interpret what happened and where her friend was really coming from. Melanie deflected what Nancy was saying.)
(To Melanie) “What you were describing is a familiar topic for you. You have a dysfunctional pattern held in place, which has to do with you being a target and people attacking you, and that that’s the way the world is around you. And you can feel self-righteous, and you can feel justified in defending yourself. But what you’re doing is holding in place a particular world view that is extremely painful. But you can feel in control, because you can name it, and you can defend yourself against it, and you can hold it in place. Now, the world is really not like that, but you’re holding the structure in place because it gives you a sense of stability.
What I’m saying is not personal to you and is not a judgment about you. This is just the way the unconscious, and limiting decisions, and defense systems work. What Nancy was saying was apparently threatening this frame-of-reference that you hold in place that gives you a feeling of strength or stability because you think you know what reality is. The fact is you don’t know what reality is, and this way of defining reality is not accurate. And what we’re wanting to do is start taking down this dysfunctional structure. I’d like you to see that you are invested in proving that other people harm you, so you can righteously defend yourself. That whole frame-of-reference is not in reality. So just stand in the question of that. Just allow yourself to open your mind to this possibility. You’re saying it from the point-of-view of an unconscious mind that is invested in creating structures like that. You choose friends on the basis of if they fit in this pattern or not. You interpret what occurs from this pattern. You are likely to relate to people in a way that would bring out this pattern. The way your unconscious mind is formed is to prove that life is like this. Life is not like this, but this is how you define reality. This is the stability that you’ve created, the structure that defines reality for you.”
