Misconceptions about Trust
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during a
“Shifting into your New Consciousness” group experience 6-11-09
(Names are changed to protect privacy)
(To Fiona) “… What you’re talking about is a structure of reality in you that is not in alignment with truth. It’s your particular structure that you’ve built based on limiting decisions about what it means to be a soft, loving person. It has to do with you not realizing that being truly loving, which is your nature, is an open channel, which goes both ways. It’s giving and receiving, the channel is open so you can receive what you need. You’re not seeing it that way, but that’s the truth of it. You’ve got structures formed that don’t allow that to happen. But the truth in reality is that’s the way it works. So when little pieces of that loving you show, it elicits a loving response from other people. It creates an open channel. But because of your internal structure, you don’t trust it.
The reason that you get taken advantage of is because you’re not consciously present in the situations in which trust is an issue. If you were present it would be obvious to you what you could trust and what you could not trust. You can be a trusting person without stepping into the middle of the street with a car coming toward you. And if you decided to not step in front of a car, you wouldn’t think, ‘Oh, I’m really bad because I didn’t trust that car to not hit me.’ But apparently you have a judgment against yourself if you don’t unquestioningly put yourself totally in the hands of others. You must feel as though you have to make yourself overly vulnerable, for some reason. You seem to think there is a conflict between seeing things as they are, and being trusting and optimistic and positive. It’s not about negatively judging other people. It’s not about being judgmental at all. People have defense systems. That doesn’t mean that that’s who they are. And so you can choose not to walk into a situation that’s dysfunctional without judging the person as being a bad person. There are a bunch of issues mixed up in there that are confusing you. One thing does not mean the other thing. It’s perfectly possible to be a completely positive and loving person, and not walk in front of a moving car. I think there is something that really is important to you, underneath this that you think you have to give up in order to have boundaries. And it’s not true. I promise you it’s not true. There’s an unhealed issue in there that is causing you to think that. It’s like you’re trying to hold in place a particular principle, by doing this. I promise it’s possible to hold the principle in place without harming yourself, and without being amorphous and lacking boundaries. You are basically inviting people to take advantage of you.”
