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Below is a comment from a fellow healer in New York about Jane’s response to Susan about healing past trauma’s. For Susan’s original questions and Jane’s response, click here.
To me I would question the point that ‘trauma originates in limiting decisions’. Child abuse and all forms of trauma abuse, kidnapping, rape, soldiers post traumatic stress, holocaust survivors etc. are not decisions. Even though some come through these horrors better than others. Traumas are insane unconscious behaviors of others causing shocking emotional disturbance in others that just plain hurt terribly. Its a wound of heart and soul. So, your answers feel sound to what you teach, but not very empathetic to the terrible hurt people have endured, karma, intrusions and other possibilities. Eventually isn’t it the Holy Spirit, Empathy and love from God heals them, yes? This is what ACIM, 12 step programs and most sound healing methods advocate. At least this is my view. Yours? And possibly, to me at least, if the woman wants to press charges, if that is her truth, why discourage her. I have found making amends and fighting, suing someone when needed, for what is right to be truly wonderful, when it my truth to do, Yes?
Jane’s Response:
Thanks for your response. You are representing a perspective that I’m sure many people share, and needs to be addressed.
Certainly we can empathize with the challenges human beings go through in their personal journeys in life. I’m all in favor of being loving and compassionate, but I believe it to be vitally important what aspect of the self is being supported. Are you supporting the truth of who the person really is, or are you supporting their limiting decisions, i.e. the mistaken idea of there being something inherently wrong with them and/or with the nature of life?
When I relate to Susan — in the immediate example — from a place of love, I am relating to the truth of who she really is. If she is holding in place a limiting decision, which is disempowering her — to the degree she’s doing that, her real self is being blocked from receiving the love. If I send the love to an unhealed issue in her, in the way she has it formed and locked in place, I’m upholding a dysfunctional construction she has of herself. I can compassionately understand and help untangle the dysfunctional structure, which is the construct of the self she has built up — and at the same time hold onto what I can grasp to be the true, empowered God-self I know that she must be. That is what my intention and focus is.
I’m not discouraging Susan from taking empowered action. I’m really not addressing what action she should take at all — although I realize that that was the focus of her question — because I don’t believe the action, in itself, to be the issue; and it shouldn’t be the focus. The action is only important in relation to the underlying impetus that is fueling it. If the impetus is dysfunctional, or serving a distorted or disempowered purpose, then it will probably not turn out well. And of course the same is true in the reverse.
Anything a person does from within a dysfunctional frame-of-reference only increases the reality of it. So if you fight somebody from within that negative frame-of-reference, then you are not healing it. You are just entrenching yourself further into it.
My perspective on what A Course in Miracles says is what enables the Holy Spirit and God (which I think of as a vibration) to heal is that that vibration holds in place the Divine truth of reality, as opposed to the illusion of the human experience in the physical world.
For clarity, I’ll call the person who is perceived as the victim, “the recipient,” and the person who is perceived as causing the trauma to the recipient as the “aggressor.” What causes the real harm in these traumatic events is the recipient taking on the distorted reality of the aggressor, as if the reality the aggressor brings with him/her describes the truth of reality. And from that point on, the recipient lives in that distorted reality. The recipient then carries that horrific reality on with him/her until she/he can break through to the untruth of it, into Divine truth, which is what A Course in Miracles would describe as a miracle. When a person is able to do that it is an amazing personal triumph and evolution of their soul.
