A Foundation for Sorting Out what Reality Is
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during a
“Shifting into your New Consciousness” group experience 6-18-09
(Names are changed to protect privacy)
(To Melanie) “Limiting decisions, distort our concept of relationships. They structure the kinds of people that we are attracted to, or can even conceive of as possible people to have in our lives as intimate partners or other kinds of relationships. So your description just now about people in your life that hurt you — you talked about that as if it’s an objective fact, whereas it’s really a subjective response. And the reason you’re together with those particular kinds of people, in the first place, has to do with limiting decisions. Basically you’re building yourself an impossible scenario in relation to other people. And maybe you’re lacking a foundation for sorting out what reality is. It’s important to have a way of organizing and understanding the nature of life, so that when you come upon something that’s not congruent with that — such as your description of people hurting you — a red flag comes up. I know there’s a limiting decision there, because what you described is not the nature of life. It’s not the nature of other people. So there’s a larger frame-of-reference that’s really important to be able to hold in place, to be able to understand that, so that you can measure things that happen and the way you respond to them, to know ‘OK, I’m in defense mode. A limiting decision has just been triggered. I am functioning out of some unhealed issue, so I am not seeing things objectively.’ And this group helps to build that sense, because I am coming from a very congruent place, and hold that in place. It’s a way of defining what’s true. So right now you’ve got a lot of confusion about what is true and what are unhealed issues in you, versus what’s actually happening external to you.”
