Out of Fantasy into Reality
From Cherrie’s NLP TimeLine Therapy session 5-20-09
(Client’s name has been changed to protect her privacy.)
Overview:
Several other things occurred in the past couple of days that left her feeling melancholy, almost depressed in relation to her survival. She saw a TV show about two young kids who committed suicide. She felt shook up at her core by how easily two little boys could take their own lives. She also saw a psychic who said something was going to come to light about her boyfriend, Louis, that would make her feel differently about him. This caused Cherrie to question if she continuously creates fantasy about relationship. The psychic also said that her mother (who has recently passed on) was with her, wanting her to understand that there could be a reality beyond her perceptions.
Cherrie ended up feeling not so good about spirituality and life existence. She has been having random crazy thoughts, questioning life, the existence of life on a spiritual plane. It brought up unknown fears that relate to her childhood when she had very fearful beliefs in relation to the devil. And even though she has had a near death experience, so she knows there is something beyond this life, she has been having fears that there is nothing else but this physical life.
Somehow as a result, she started taking stock of things to see how she could make a plan for the next 5-10 years, to get a sense of her reality situation. She’s realizing she either has to sell her house or sell the condo she owns with her x-husband and some property in Florida, because there is no way she can earn enough money to pay for her mortgage and other expenses as they stand now. She has lived a level of lifestyle beyond what she was making. She created a situation that in reality she can’t sustain. It’s an overbearing financial burden. So she has been going over her records and computing how much she needs to sustain where she is, in order to make realistic decisions about what she should do.”
Transcript excerpts of Jane’s Teachings:
“We’ve been working to get you more and more in reality and out of fantasy, and you are getting more in reality. You’ve had a number of different defense systems keeping you out of reality and in fantasy, as a way of feeling a sense of well-being. And when the fantasy gets knocked over, you feel panicked.
And this is also significant on an evolutionary level at this particular point in time. When the illusion of reality that most people live in, that they think is what is really supporting them, when they go past it, it seems to be a really big transition. It is about shifting survival systems. And it can feel terrifying, because you don’t know what you can count on. At some point we recognize that the things we have been relying on to support us, such as how we bring money in — that we really can’t rely on it. You realize that this thing that to you has kept you alive — the things you really need — it has been an illusion that it’s something you could count on as your source. And who knows, maybe the Divine or the larger Intelligence holds this illusion in place, for as long as the person really needs it, until they’re ready to transition into a higher level of being. It’s sort of like a trick in a sense, or like training wheels. Somehow they make it work to whatever level you need it to work, even though it’s not really reality. It’s not the thing that is really supporting you. But as you’re ready, it’s like experience thins out and reality becomes more transparent, and you’re between the two worlds. And you begin to realize that your present world reality cannot really be relied upon as you’re ready to let go of it and move into the new one. So I think that’s where you’re at.
The issue is, you have not trusted truth and reality to support you. That’s been the problem and you have made up an alternative world that you depended upon that has to do with fantasy. I believe that is what your panic is about, because your fantasy world is crumbling for various reasons. And it’s causing you to be face to face with life without fantasy, which is the reality that you have been avoiding because you don’t trust it. And today we’re going to clear at least of chunk of that, and we’ll keep working on it until we clear the whole thing, because the reality is what is really supporting you, not the fantasy. The fantasy has been causing you to make decisions which have not been supporting you.
(Cherrie was saying, she always knew she could make money before.)
The way you’ve earned money before has been based on you functioning in a way that was against yourself. There were a number of things you were sacrificing in order to make this work. You were relating in certain ways to men, in which you were giving yourself away, and allowing yourself to be used. You were putting out huge amounts of energy to psych yourself up. You were creating fantasies all over the place. So in order to make this work you were paying a big price, and you were also being unrealistic financially. You were building a house of cards that eventually had to fall apart. So you were making money on a shaky basis, and on the basis that you were against yourself in a number of different ways. And so now when that whole system is breaking down, it is putting you in a panic, because you don’t think there is an alternative. And that has to do with limiting decisions. And when we clear them you will be able to live in abundance in a place that’s totally congruent with yourself, in which you don’t have to sacrifice a thing.”
The limiting decision Cherrie cleared with the TimeLine process: “She can’t survive on her own.”
The first event in which she made this decision: One generation ago. She was a young girl and lived in a mountain town. Her arms were run over by a wagon. She survived the accident, but lost the use of her arms from her elbows down. She had to depend on other people to take care of her.
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s teaching during the TimeLine process:
“No one ever survives on their own. It’s always by the grace of God, whether you’re whole in body or not. In truth you were no less dependent in your handicapped state than you would otherwise have been, because our circumstances can change at any moment. The apparent physical circumstances are never what really sustains and supports you. You’re always being sustained and supported by a larger force than the human experience, regardless of what state you happen to be in at any particular moment.
The Universe is filled with resources, but limiting decisions can get in the way of you receiving them. So when you made the decision that you cannot survive on your own in reality, from that point on, you caused yourself to be dependent on others in a dysfunctional way. So then you felt as though you had to survive by putting yourself under others, so they would take care of you — or by manipulating them. Either way you were acting as if other people had the power over you. But if you look at it from the perspective that they are simply instruments of the Divine, then you don’t have to be other than who you are. You don’t have to distort yourself. You don’t have to give yourself away. You don’t have to create fantasies. You don’t have to do anything that’s out of reality, because it’s not other human ego selves that are in control of you. One way or another, the Universe will support you, through whatever means it chooses to. And so you don’t have to cave in to human ego demands in order to keep yourself surviving, because it’s not people who are supporting you.”
The limiting decision was cleared, and then the whole dynamic shifted for Cherrie.
