Power and Authority
Transcript excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during a
Shifting into Your New Consciousness group experience 3/5/09
(The name is changed to protect participant’s privacy.)
Soul Essence Versus False Persona
(To Janet, about her giving advice right and left) “This is a false persona you have created in order to feel powerful, or respected as someone who should be taken seriously. You use a very matter-of-fact, very clipped professional way of speaking, so that nobody can fault you. But to me, it feels devoid of you. It feels like there’s no life there, no meaning there. There’s no real juice that you, yourself bring to the table. It’s like you’re wiping yourself out, a false persona is taking over, and there’s no space for the real you.
In every moment, there’s some divine essence, some truth, or a whole bunch of them, that if you can get a grasp of it in any way, it gives meaning to the moment. But if you’re skirting on top, and just being a false persona, to me it’s soul dead. It kills the soul. And the more you listen to it, the more you die listening to it. But when you hear something that is soul essence, in which the Divine is speaking, what is really real — then it makes everything worthwhile. And the thing is that you, in particular, so inherently have soul essence that it becomes really stark when you’re doing this other thing. It’s like, ‘Where is she? Where is she?’ Because you have, inherent in you, a beautiful soul essence. And when you’re hiding it with the false persona, we feel cheated.
(Janet was saying she’s really sad about this giving advice, logical way of relating being punctured.) I think your sadness is grieving a lost fantasy. But it’s not about losing a real true thing. It’s what you’ve aspired to in some way, but it doesn’t have to do with what is really you. This is not about you losing your ability to be logical. It isn’t about that at all. This is the way you have felt you could get a certain amount of respect from people. And there’s something really, really mistaken in there. And it’s leaving a very important part of yourself behind in order to do it. This is one of these times when the quote from A Course in Miracles is helpful. ‘I don’t know what this means, and therefore I don’t know how to respond.’ Stand in the question, because the way you’re interpreting this is wrong. Be happy it’s wrong, because there’s no solution the way you’re looking at it.”
The Old Business Paradigm
(Janet said her husband tells her he has to play a manipulation game with clients and business associates, and not give them too much information. And then he tells her she could never succeed in business.) “That is an old paradigm. Business, like everything else, is evolving. What your husband was describing is going backward. It’s not the business of the future. It’s not what’s going to work in the future. Right now this is his paradigm of reality in business, that’s all he sees as possibilities, and that’s what he’s creating around him. But as he evolves, his relationship to business will evolve as well. And you may have an important role in that evolution.”
Male-Female Power Balance / Being a Role Model as a Mother
(To Janet) (About Janet feeling not taken seriously at home, and her husband and son’s dismissive attitudes.) Men tend to easily see themselves as the center of the universe, and women tend to see the men as the center of the universe, and there is a lot of conflict that happens because of that. But both men and women are evolving and bringing more balance to this. And even though that is still entrenched in your family structure — inside of that, is a very, very interesting dynamic of you struggling with these issues — to some degree openly — with your family. Sometimes you’ll try something. Sometimes you’ll try something else, or you’ll reveal your emotions in a big way, or relate to family members differently than you have before. You do all of these different things. An observer could see a person openly working on growing and changing and transforming, and trying things and relating in different ways. That’s a wonderful thing. And most parents don’t show any of that. They don’t try to grow or evolve. They just do what they think will get them certain results. And the fact that you’re out there doing that is very important — regardless of how successful you are at one point or another. And you have made a big impact on your family. You are now relating to them radically differently and more effectively than you related to them before, and they must realize that. And it’s an amazing thing that a mother would love them so much that she would try so hard to find the best way to relate to them. It’s just very moving.”
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during Janet’s
NLP TimeLine Therapy Session 3-18-09
Parents / Children
(Janet was saying that when she asks her kids to do chores, they don’t do them, and she doesn’t expect them to.)
“It seems you’re not being taken seriously as an authority. So we should talk about what being an authority means, and how you get to a place of authority — which is similar to what I’ve described about being a leader. Both you and your child are under reality, and it’s a matter of relating from that place of what’s actually true. And as you are standing in the truth of what the situation is and what really needs to be done, the more you will be listened to. And then your job is to help guide your child to be connected to reality and truth as well, so that they, also, can see what needs to be done and so they’re not just being told what to do by a parent authority. The idea isn’t for one person to have power over another, but rather for the parent to guide the child to what the reality truth is, so that the child can function in the world as well.”
Power in the World / Male vs. Female
(It then came out that Janet feels she is not respected because she is more emotional than logical. She sees men as logical and women as emotional, so people listen to men more than to women. She sees it as a man’s world. She feels left out of conversations such as about finances, politics, and legal matters — areas of power in the world.)
“It appears that the limiting decision we need to clear is that men have the power in the world. This decision then results in you not seeing yourself as a part of the world, and therefore you disengage from it. Therefore, when you try to stand in a place of authority about the world, it holds no weight. And because you see it as a man’s world in which you have no power or authority, you then need a man to deal with the world for you. This then means you need to rely on the man, which makes you feel like a burden on him. And then, apparently, you feel you have to make this up by taking care of him, and doing everything to support him in being in the world.”
