Men Feeling Threatened by Female Emotions
Transcript Excerpts of Jane’s Teachings during the
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 4/23/09
(Participants’ names have been changed to protect their privacy.)
(Randy was saying he thinks Jane is being too hard on Janet, about what she is saying about Janet’s defense system.)
(To Randy) “To you the world of live material or emotions is dangerous. You don’t trust it, although you’re learning to trust it more, as you’re experiencing what happens when we really get down to the real live material. You are looking for emotional safety. A defense system like Janet’s is providing emotional safety for a particular type of person, with a particular kind of dysfunction. And Janet has gotten acceptance by relating from that place. So it feels safe all around. But it also is stuck. The fear you have about the real, live emotional material is based on an unhealed issue and structure. And when you have that healed, then you will be able to participate in relating on a much deeper and more transformational level.
It’s similar to what Chandler was saying all those groups back, that he falls for certain kinds of women that make things feel emotionally safe. His mother was similar to your wife, but worse. She was actually schizophrenic — really emotionally not safe. And so you (Janet) make men with that kind of emotional background feel safe, which then perhaps makes the world feel safe to you. You feel you have a place in the world that is supported by men. It’s a defense system that causes people who have an interlocking defense system with you, to want to be around you. It allows you to feel wanted or needed, without anyone feeling threatened by you because you’re not challenging to them. But, in the process, you’ve abandoned your real emotional self and end up giving away your power. Perhaps that emotional aspect of you makes men who have difficulty dealing with emotions, uncomfortable and feel threatened.”
