Male-Female Paradigm
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teaching during Cherrie’s NLP TimeLine Therapy Session 3/9/09
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(Cross-Reference: Cherrie’s Journey to Financial Abundance | TimeLine Therapy Session Highlights 3/i9/09 & 3/18/09)
“There’s a plus and minus for a man feeling he has to be the sole provider. The plus (which is not in reality) is carrying this heavy load is something he can get mastery of, something he can feel in control of, so it makes him feel powerful. But it comes from not really feeling secure about being a man, and can only be done by repressing a lot of other stuff. And eventually it’s likely to fall apart, because the burden and sacrifice is too great.
For some reason your mother had some channels blocked that would have connected her to reality. It’s not that women can’t do that. It’s that your mother was particularly dysfunctional in this area. So your decision was based on how your viewed your parents. But they are individual people with their own individual issues. It’s not really about men and women in truth, in general. It’s just a particular outdated role that people in that era were playing. And it’s clearly no longer true. The world has evolved past that, even though there are still some deep cultural limiting decisions in that regard. But women have proved that they can function in reality, just as well as men can. And the female perspective is a very important ingredient in evolving that whole dysfunctional paradigm.”
Is there something called a “Female chauvinistic pig”. I know this comment might meet with a lot of criticism but I think men are at the bad side of the bargain on so many things. Pre-nuptial agreements, divorce settlements, jibes at the workplace, obesity issues, politics and just about so many things have made men to be “the big bad wolf”. With this kind of image today’s man is largely insecure. Accepting him as he is seems to be a thing of the past. He has to be the metrosexual man, the sensitive guy, the macho and so many other things. The female perspective in this case has not helped evolve this outdated line of thought. It has complicated simple matters to a complex state.
Hi “Need Therapist,”
I think a new post I just put up would be of interest to you. I believe it addresses at least some of your concerns. The web address is: http://blog.janecohencounseling.com/2009/08/participating-in-the-male-female-evolutionary-process/
Warmly,
Jane