Transforming Victimhood
Transcript Excerpt of Jane’s Teachings during a
“Shifting into Your New Consciousness” group experience 2/5/09
(For information about this group click here.)
(Name is changed to protect participant’s privacy.)
To Jocelyn:
“What I’m suggesting is a step further for you. You’ve witnessed yourself putting yourself in a powerless position (which Jocelyn had just described). Now I’m asking you to start becoming conscious of how you are using your power rather than making yourself powerless.
The point is a person who identifies him/herself as a victim, is never a victim in reality. A victim is someone who is not taking responsibility for how they are using their power. They are never powerless. The story is that you are powerless, and that people or circumstances are controlling you. But the truth is you use being a victim and martyr to control everybody else around you. You are using this so you get to be late, to stop people from asking more of you, to get people to feel sorry for you… You could probably make a long list of all of the different things you are sacrificing your power for. What is the outcome? How is you putting yourself in a victim position affecting every person who either experiences you do this, or hears about you doing this? What is it enabling you to not do? What is it enabling you to feel about yourself? What are you getting other people to feel about you? What you’re doing is having repercussions. It would probably be very helpful for you to start becoming conscious of exactly what those repercussions are, what effect you are causing by doing that. This is where your power is, and your power is locked up there, rather than what would really do you some good.
The main point here is that in the events you described, you were using your power very actively. There is nothing powerless about you. You are out there every day, every moment, being in your power. And what I’m trying to get you to do is start getting conscious of how you are using it. You are having an effect, and on an unconscious level you know you are having an effect, and you are doing it on purpose to have an effect, and the question is for you to start getting conscious of the effect you’re having.
(Jocelyn is said she’s not able to take this in. Her mind keeps skipping over what Jane is saying.) I can see that this would be head spinning for a person who identifies themselves as a victim and powerless. To start seeing where you are using your power is a contradiction in terms, from where you are standing. It would feel crazy-making because of how you are identifying yourself.”
